On Dating: 'He's Just Not That Into You' Co-Author Greg Behrendt Does Stand-Up

Greg Behrendt: He's into comedy shows.
Greg Behrendt: He's into comedy shows. (By Marina Chavez)
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Friday, May 1, 2009

It has been more than five years since the words Greg Behrendt spoke to a co-worker with boy problems -- "He's just not that into you" -- entered the national lexicon to become the catchphrase of choice for confused singles.

Finally Behrendt is starting to see men come to his stand-up comedy shows again.

After "He's Just Not That Into You" was released as a book, Behrendt would find audiences filled "probably 70 to 80 percent with women."

He expects the split to be a bit more even when he takes the stage at the D.C. Jewish Community Center on Monday night. Still, he knows that his identity as a comic (he has been one for more than 20 years) has in many ways succumbed to his status as a sharp-tongued relationship guru.

"It's like the elephant in the room. I always have to acknowledge it," he said recently on the phone from Los Angeles.

Behrendt, who is married with two young kids, is still slightly in awe of the turn his life took into the sphere of self-help tomes. The former consultant on "Sex and the City" also co-wrote books on breakups and dating.

"I think it was a confluence of things," he says of the first book's success, which inspired the movie of the same name. "I think it was the right time for it to be said by a guy who was approved by 'Sex and the City' and then got further approval from 'Oprah.' "

"Women seem to not be able to get enough of what men think. There really should be a book called 'Who Gives a [Fig] What Men Think?' I think once everybody gets there, we're going to be in much better shape."

Don't expect much advice if you hit the show Monday. But you will be treated to horror stories from the annals of Behrendt's dating days. Guys, he says, are just as confused as women when it comes to relationships. They just don't buy books about it. " 'She's Just Not That Into You' would sell eight copies," he says.

"Men get drunk, stand on your lawn and then a cop comes, and that's how they know it's over," he explains.

Behrendt appears at the D.C. Jewish Community Center on Monday at 8 p.m. $15 in advance; $20 at the door, http://www.washingtondcjcc.org. Have a dating theory? E-mail us at dating@washpost.com.

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