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Monday, July 6, 2009

I found myself agreeing with Ruth Marcus's analysis of Jenny Sanford's handling of her family situation after her husband, South Carolina Gov. Mark Sanford, admitted an affair ["Jenny Sanford, Role Model," op-ed, July 1]. Until, that is, Ms. Marcus applauded Ms. Sanford's threat to use Mr. Sanford's access to their sons as a bargaining chip in the relationship.

No child should ever be used as a pawn in a battle between spouses. It happens all too frequently and causes nothing but heartache to the children. Sometimes children can weather that kind of mistreatment, but sometimes the experience causes lifelong damage.

I can understand that Ms. Sanford's pain could impair her good judgment about what is best for her children. What is Ms. Marcus's excuse?

JAN SELBO

Warrenton



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