Date Lab

Sunday, July 26, 2009


Ian: I showed up at the restaurant probably a couple minutes before 7:30. I sat in the lobby, and Erin showed up two or three minutes after me.

Erin: Before the date I was just a little nervous. I got there at 7:30, and he was sitting on a bench near the hostess stand. He's got dark hair, and I tend to like dark hair on guys. He was also well dressed. I was definitely attracted to him.

Ian: The first thing I noticed was her height. She's 5-8 and I'm 5-10, so that is a little tall for me. She was definitely in shape. There wasn't an immediate romantic attraction toward her, [but] the physical attraction was there a little.

Erin: We got seated, and instantly it was one those things where we both had big smiles on our faces. It was easy. We didn't have trouble finding stuff to talk about.

Ian: We made the waitress come back 100 times because we were just talking and not really paying attention to the menu. We started off with a bottle of wine.

Erin: I had him choose the bottle of wine. He was like, "I am nervous. This feels like a test." It was kind of cute. We talked about previous dates and how this compared.

Ian: We both had a similar social life. She goes out on weekends and plays soccer, like me. I have gone on a few dates, [and she has, too]. I usually wait until the second date to bring up that I am [divorced]. I'd have no problem [mentioning it, but] the opportunity or the need just never came up.

Erin: Him being divorced wouldn't be a stop sign; it would be a yield sign. I'd have to find out more. I couldn't tell if I was exactly his type, but I could tell we were at least having fun because we were laughing a lot. After splitting the brownie sundae, Ian suggested we head somewhere else. We walked over to Marvin and went upstairs to the rooftop deck.

Ian: We were standing there talking, and out of the corner of my eye I see someone looking at me. It was one of my ex-girlfriend's friends. There was a whole crowd of them, and my ex-girlfriend was there. We were standing too close to just walk away without saying anything. So I went over and said "Hi" and introduced Erin to a couple of them and then basically said, "Have a good night." It was awkward.

Erin: Once we walked away you could tell he wasn't quite sure how to address it. We sort of defused it and laughed about it. I made a joke about how I was glad it wasn't one of my exes I ran into. It was 10:30, and we had been joking earlier that we can't hang like we used to at 25. We decided to call it a night.

Ian: I said, "Would you like to hang out some time again?" She said, "Sounds great." We walked out and exchanged phone numbers. I offered to walk her back, but she ended up taking a cab.

Erin: I didn't want to put him out by making him walk me home and then all the way back to his car. We had a nice hug, and he kissed me on the cheek.

Ian: I would give the date a 4 [out of 5]. I had a really good time and am glad I went out. I just don't think there was a really strong spark at the beginning or throughout the night. But I am open-minded and would like to hang out with her again. I think we will talk again.

Erin: I would probably rate the date around a 4 or 4.5. If he calls, that's great. I would like to see him again. This was better than my average first date.

Interviews by Stephen Lowman

UPDATE: The two exchanged text messages after the date, but haven't communicated since. "She was a nice girl but there wasn't a spark," says Ian.

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