Sunday, August 16, 2009
7:30 p.m., Bonefish Grill, Centreville
Julian: I've never been on a blind date, [but] I do very adventurous, spontaneous things. I was there five minutes early. I was sitting at the table, [and] my friends are texting me, trying to scare me. Like, "Oh, my gosh, what if she's not cute? Oh, no!"
Susan: I was thinking about it all day. I was like, What if I don't like him? What if he doesn't like me? [But] I was excited to try something new. I got there at 7:30, and [the hostess] led me to the table. He had a welcoming aura about him [and] a relieved look on his face. He had nice big, brown eyes, and he was pretty cute and smiling.
Julian: She looks like the type of girl I like. The first thing that popped in my head was Gabrielle Union. They don't look the same in the face, but they have some of the same features, and body-wise they're pretty close. I felt extremely relieved. I was like, Okay, I can see I'm going to enjoy my meal and have a good time.
Susan: We talked about where we're from, what we're doing for the summer. We're both from the same area, so we had that in common. [It was] easy to talk to him; it just flowed naturally, like I'd already known him for a while. It was his favorite restaurant, and I didn't know what to order. I just kind of told him what I liked, and he ordered for me. It was nice of him. And I ended up liking the food.
Julian: I like to cook; I'm very into food. I have a good feel for what people like to eat. We talked about what we do back in school. A couple of my friends from high school [go to her college]. She ended up knowing them, so we had a little conversation about that. That was a good thing; they're really fun guys. That she's able to be friends with them kind of means a lot [about] her personality.
Susan: I felt like we were flirting, just, like, smiling at each other, making jokes. He was pretty funny.
Julian: I definitely think there was flirting. We had dessert. It was about 9 o'clock. We were wrapping things up, [but] I wasn't eager to go home.
Susan: We had been talking about movies, [and] he brought up "Brüno." The movie theater is right next to the restaurant, [so] I was like, "Let's go see 'Brüno.'" He was like, "Yeah, let's do it," so we went and saw it.
Julian: I [had said] I wanted to see it, so I thought it was very cool she [suggested it]. But it was not a great pick for a first date. A lot of the [jokes] went a little too far. I definitely wish we'd seen something else.
Susan: Some parts were funny, but overall it was just [too] controversial. He was like, "I hope I didn't ruin the date by picking that movie," and I was like, "No, no, it's all good." It was 11, and we exchanged numbers. We made plans to do something again. We both said, "Nothing with [Sacha Baron Cohen]."
Julian: During the date our family and friends were texting us, blowing up our phones. They wanted a picture. So we had to take pictures with our camera phones. We hugged and said good night and hugged again. It was one of those "good nights" where you wish you could do something else but it was late.
Susan: I give [the date] a 4 [out of 5]. It was a really good date. It was all fun, a lot of laughs, learning more about each other. We're definitely getting together again.
Julian: I'd [rate the date] a 4.85. I'd definitely like to see her again. She's definitely a different speed from most girls I date [and] slowed me down. Which is good.
-- Interviews by Elizabeth Terry
UPDATE: Susan and Julian had planned to go out again, but work got in the way. They're rescheduling.
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