The Answer Sheet: Pushy parents forget about play
Parental anxiety is ruining playtime
It is well known that many preschool parents have become super-anxious trying to give their kids a leg up on kindergarten, but I didn't realize just how nutty things had become until I talked to several dozen preschool program directors.
What child development experts know is that youngsters best learn the fundamentals of literacy through well-designed play. But lots of parents don't understand that. Here is what's going on in the preschool world of the greater Washington region and, I have no doubt, in other places across the country as well.
-- Begging school directors to let their 1 1/2 -year-olds into programs for 2-year-olds because Danny and Olivia are so incredibly advanced.
-- Demanding to know why their 2-year-old isn't being given the alphabet to copy over and over and memorize.
-- Afraid that any services their child needs, such as speech therapy, will go on the youngster's "permanent record" and harm their chances of getting into a private school.
-- Enrolling their 3-year-olds in so many activities that the kids are falling asleep on their preschool desks.
-- Buying toys for 2-year-olds that are labeled for older children.
I learned this after some preschool directors called me when I wrote several weeks ago about how academically oriented kindergarten had become -- complete with test prep and homework, but no recess.
(One reader, raynecloud, responded to that post with this: "This story makes me thankful we're currently living in Europe. My 4-year-old just started in kindergarten equivalent, and, while they are learning to write, it's primarily about learning through play, making friends, and running around in the attached-to-classroom outside play area whenever they want throughout the day, plus three scheduled half-hours of outdoor play over the wider school grounds. My son loves it!")
The preschool directors wanted to discuss the worsening anxiety they see in parents who recognize that children are being required to read and write in kindergarten and want to make sure little Johnny and Joanie stay on track -- whether or not they are developmentally ready (and lots aren't).
"It's not that we don't think learning is important," said Mara Bier, director of the Early Childhood Development Area of the Rockville-based Partnership for Jewish Life and Learning. "We do. Where we disagree is how that is achieved."