Avoiding couples on Valentine's Day

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Friday, February 12, 2010

"Having been there, a couple of times, we have to be aware that it is a sad time when you've just broken up with someone, or you've been widowed, or you haven't been with someone for a long time, and there's just so much emphasis on the couple. If you realize, 'Okay, this is just one day, I will get through it and I don't have to give it a lot of attention,' that may be helpful. Take charge of your life and your feelings. Go with someone to something that is for singles. Or go to a movie that's a comedy; don't go to a love story. Do something like ballroom dancing, golf or tennis -- anything to enlarge their circle."

-- Marcy Kelly, Vienna-based life coach and author of "From Sorrow to Dancing"

"Basically, go somewhere that in no way involves candlelight or soft music. Go somewhere it's going to be loud, it's going to be crowded, and somewhere the average couple isn't going to think, 'This is a sweet place for us to get together and hold hands.' For years, the Black Cat has been a staple for me. Asylum is another place I like. Go someplace on the dive-ier end of the spectrum, someplace where you know there won't be flowers on the table."

-- Fritz Hahn, Going Out Guide bars and clubs editor

TRY: See art, share a slice of pizza, dance to funk and soul hits and generally disavow Valentine's Day at the Hearts and Skulls party Friday, thrown by arts foundation the Pink Line Project and gallery Civilian Art Projects at the Capitol Skyline Hotel. 8 p.m. For tickets, visit http://www.brownpapertickets.com/event/97900. For details, http://www.pinklineproject.com. $10-$12.

Celebrate your deep love for music -- and only music -- at the D.C. Record Fair, which returns with nothing less than music titans on the ones and twos: Eric Hilton (Thievery Corporation) will take the turntables at the Valentine's Day event at the Black Cat, along with Ian MacKaye (Fugazi), Geologist (Animal Collective), Kid Congo Powers (Nick Cave and the Bad Seeds) and others. Feel free to grab a drink while you sift through records. Admission is $2. Noon-6 p.m. Sunday. http://www.blackcatdc.com.

PassionFish in Reston hosts a singles mixer on Saturday with an open bar and heavy seafood hors d'oeuvres. 7-10 p.m. $70 a person. Reservations required; e-mail kathryn@passionfishreston.com.

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