Date Lab: The fine line between conversation and interview

Sunday, March 7, 2010

7:30 p.m., Old Ebbitt Grill, Downtown

Jeremy: I left work early, got home, picked out a nice shirt to make sure I was nice and polished. I got there right at 7. There was a stool by the window; I sat there just checking out all the sights.

Pier: I tried to wear something to work that could go from daytime to evening. I wore a dress with flats and switched to boots with a heel. I got there maybe a minute or two late. I checked in with the hostess, and she pointed to Jeremy sitting by the window. He looked up and looked startled for a second, and for a split second, I thought he was the wrong person.

Jeremy: I wasn't expecting anyone to come behind me -- I thought I would catch her before she walked in. I thought her eyes were beautiful. I liked what she was wearing and how her hair was done. My first impression was, Yes, she would be my type.

Pier: He was not someone I would have gone for under normal circumstances. He is thin and slight. He did not have a strong presence.

Jeremy: She was a lot more outgoing that me, so initially she did a lot of the talking. She asked me a lot of questions. I kind of liked it, because it helped break me out of my shell. There were some periods of silence.

Pier: I would kind of stop for a little bit to see if I was not giving him a chance to speak, but when I would stop talking, the conversation would stop. I felt like I was interviewing him. He answered questions freely. But he wouldn't really ask back.

Jeremy: She mentioned that once she got out of high school she sort of broke out of her shell in a big way. Me, myself, I'm still working on that.

Pier: He really likes computers; he has all these computers, and he takes them apart and he can build them. It's his thing. That's when he started talking the most and got excited. It went over my head for a little bit. He is a really intelligent guy, but nothing in particular comes out unless you kind of bring it out of him. Basketball was something we clicked on a little bit. I am a big Tar Heel fan.

Jeremy: We talked about how UNC is kind of on a down year right now. I did rub it in a little bit. I pretty much eat and breathe basketball.

Pier: Humor is a big thing for me. He never really made me laugh, which is something I look for.

Jeremy: She is very sarcastic. I can be the same way, but I feel more comfortable being sarcastic around people I know really well. [But] it was all funny.

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