DEAR AMY: I opened a Facebook page and did not tell my husband.
I am not doing anything on the page that I would not want him to see.
He is very opposed to social networking sites and has concerns about security.
I felt it was none of his business. I don't ask him what he does on the Internet, and I didn't think I had to tell him about it.
He found out when he received an e-mail from someone inviting him to join Facebook; in the message it said "people you may know on Facebook," and there I was.
He flipped out and has said it was deceitful and that I lied to him.
I don't see it the same way.
I see it as something private I chose to do that did not concern him.
After he found out, he opened a page and I immediately "friended" him so he could see what I was doing. He's still angry and still sees it as a betrayal.
Was it lying? -- Stephanie in Nashville
DEAR STEPHANIE: It sounds to me that because you and your husband had already discussed this, you may have left him with the impression that you would not open a Facebook page. If so, opening one and deliberately not telling him does seem deceitful.
I agree with your reasoning that you can choose to use these social networking tools regardless of what your husband says. It's your life and your time, and if you want to throw it down the Facebook sinkhole, that is your right.