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Date Lab: He's sick and tired. Can he rally for this date?

Sunday, September 19, 2010; W12

8 p.m., Scion, Dupont Circle

Reid: I had flown into D.C. early in the morning, so I had been up since 4:30, and I was already starting to feel the beginning stages of a cold. I took the Metro, and I got there about 15 minutes early. The hostess asked: Do I want to be outside or in? It was a nice night, so I figured outside would be best. I got a beer and waited for Kelly.

Kelly: I finished work at 5, so I had a lot of time to spare. I just went to Dupont and kind of hung out and then went over to the restaurant. I got there two minutes before 8. He was sitting right outside. I had a feeling when I saw him that it was him. I thought, Oh, okay, he's pretty cute, so that's a good start. I walked to the hostess and got seated.

Reid: I thought she was pretty cute. She carried herself with a lot of confidence; she was smiling. She was definitely someone I was attracted to.

Kelly: I generally think that my physical type is the tall, dark, handsome type and I guess we're about equal height. But I thought he was attractive. I think cute and all-American probably describes it the most. And he had a nice smile.

Reid: I sat down and said, "So, where are you from? What do you do?" We both kind of realized that we were young, and so I said, "Did you just finish up school?" And she said, "Yeah."

Kelly: He's from the Midwest, but he was eager to come to D.C., and I've sort of been in this area my whole life, but I went to college in the Midwest. So we both sort of have a different perspective of and an idea of where each other comes from. And he's done a lot of travel. He went to Australia for one of his work projects, and that is where I spent some time abroad.

Reid: We ordered a couple of appetizers, talked some more and then ordered dinner. She asked if I had any pipe dreams, which was an interesting question. It's not something that I'd ever ask on a date. She said that she had an interest in becoming a recording artist and that she tried out for "American Idol." It takes a special level of craziness to do that. Not a bad crazy, just a confident crazy. I told her that I did photography as hobby.

Kelly: The thing that struck me that he was most passionate about was his traveling and being involved in political work and facilitating important political events and campaign events. I actually minored in political science, but I don't consider myself a political junkie. I think there's a bit of a gap between my level of intensity in following politics and his. That's not really a problem. I'm always interested in people who are more of an expert in a particular subject area than I am.

Reid: Her level of knowledge seemed fine. [And] it was good to have someone who was also kind of a liberal Democrat. She has an attractive personality, but I couldn't really tell if it was a match. I have never been able to judge if I am romantically attracted to someone right after meeting her. It really just takes me a while.

Kelly: I thought he was an interesting guy, and he was really nice. But I'm not sure if he's exactly what I'm looking for in terms of personality fit. There were a few ways that he was talking about things that were a little on the cynical side. I think it's good to be realistic, but I tend to try and see the world through rose-colored glasses. [And] he didn't seem particularly enthusiastic [about the date]. I don't think there was any big sort of spark or anything. [But] it's kind of hard to tell from, like, a first-date situation and also the fact that he was really exhausted.

Reid: To be honest, I was probably trying to stay awake -- not at all because of her but because of that early flight and feeling a little sick. [But] I wouldn't say that there was an immediate spark or anything. We had dessert. It probably was close to 10 o'clock. I was really starting to fade fast, so we paid the bill, and I got her number. I apologized for being as tired as I was.

Kelly: I actually got up really early for work, too, so I wasn't necessarily interested in continuing the evening, either. We walked to the Metro together [and] got on for one stop until he got off.

Reid: I'd [rate the date] a 4 [out of 5]. I'll probably end up contacting her again and see what happens.

Kelly: I'd say 3.5. If he invited me [on a date], I would certainly be willing to go out again, but I don't know if we will.

Interviews by Christina Breda Antoniades

Update: No plans to get together again: Reid contacted Kelly via Facebook the following week to say he'd had a good time but had reconnected with someone else just before the date and the timing was bad. Sigh.

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