Ask Amy

DEAR AMY: My husband and I got married in our mid-40s, approximately two years ago.

I realize that this seems ungrateful (and I realize we are in terrible economic times), but I feel the ring I received was too small and inappropriate for our incomes and ages.

My husband and I are both educated, have good jobs and are frugal.

I know that he was able to afford a nicer wedding/engagement ring.

My husband buys and continues to buy the best for himself but spent very little on a wedding ring I wear every day.

My friends and co-workers regularly show off their diamonds, and I hear comments on their beauty.

There has never been a single comment made about my diamond, even at our wedding!

I have tried discussing my feelings with my husband, but he immediately gets angry and walks away.

He tells me, "You work -- buy your own ring." I can buy my own ring, but it doesn't seem right. He tells me he will not buy another ring.

Please tell me if I have a legitimate complaint or if I'm just ungrateful and should keep my mouth shut. -- Ungrateful?

DEAR UNGRATEFUL?: I can't tell you to keep your mouth shut, because you've already opened it. Too bad.

You admit to being ungrateful, and so the solution to this problem is in how you cop to your ingratitude and present the issue.