Date Lab: Is it a bad date -- or just a bad match?

Sunday, December 19, 2010

7:30 p.m., Woodlands, Fairfax

Mike: I got there 15 minutes early, so I drove around to check out where we could go after the restaurant. I came in and checked with the host, but I think it's more polite if I wait outside for her.

Wendy: I was 10 or 15 minutes late, [because] I had to stop and get gas.

Mike: She pulls up in this sports car and comes out, talking on the phone, like "La, la, la" and relaxed, not like, "Oh, no, I'm late." She didn't apologize for being late.

Wendy: He was standing out front. He is attractive, in shape and has a nice smile, but physically, he wasn't really my type. He has dark blond hair. I tend to be attracted to the darker, Italian type at first. But I'm always open. I try not to make judgments, because I've learned that people's personalities and commonalities can make someone more attractive to you.

Mike: Usually I date more athletic types. I was not attracted to her when I first saw her. She is kind of an artsy dresser. I [like] more of a Mary Ann than a Ginger: more natural and maybe not dressed quite as much to the hilt. But by end of night, she was definitely more attractive, probably because we were finally talking. It was a vegetarian Indian place. I said, "Hey, I guess you like Indian food." She's like, "I don't like Indian food." [I asked] "Well, are you a vegetarian?"

Wendy: I am not a vegetarian. Most of my friends eat meat, and bacon ... lots of bacon. He has had Indian food a lot. I basically told him to just order whatever.

Mike: I eat a vegan diet. I thought [Date Lab] would have set me up with someone like that. I was like, "If you want sushi or something, I'll pay for it." She was like, "No, it's okay." We chatted to find out why we were matched up. The only thing we could think of is she is a runner. But she is injured, [so] we did not have any recent running things to talk about. She had a good sense of humor, so we could joke about things. That helped.

Wendy: He does paintings, which I thought was interesting. We both have kind of an artistic brain but also analytical; we kind of think the same way. He made a comment that some of my attitudes are kind of Buddhist. We talked about materialism and a sense of not getting too attached to things.

Mike: There was nothing really in common to glue us. We tried to make the best out of it.

Wendy: When we were finished with dinner, he had them wrap it all up. I think it was 9:15. He said, "We can get a drink after this."

Mike: We went over to the sports bar I had reconnoitered earlier.

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