Editor's Query: Tell us about a time when a show-and-tell didn't go exactly as planned

Sunday, January 2, 2011

My great-grandfather, Richard Baxter Ervin, was a Confederate soldier from South Carolina. In his later years, he wrote a compelling short memoir of his life as a soldier. Being a Yankee from New Jersey myself, I was nevertheless moved by his story and often shared it with my children, who are adopted from Korea. They were impressed by his service and the tales he told of the foot soldier's life and hardships.

My older daughter, Jennifer Walser, was in Junior ROTC in high school, often serving as an officer of the group. For one assignment, she brought in a copy of the memoir as well as his picture and some other small memorabilia to show to the class. She gave a short talk on her great-great-grandfather's life during the Civil War, including the fact that he had been wounded in a battle near Alexandria, Virginia.

When she asked for comments at the end of her speech, she was amused by the first response.

"Wow," said a classmate, "I never realized Koreans fought in the Civil War, and were Rebels!"

So, the show-and-tell session resulted in a follow-up discussion of what it means to be a family -- related by love and history, if not by blood.

Sara Walser, Laurel

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