Ask Amy: Mysterious IM leads to wild Googlechase
At the end of my workday recently, I received an instant message that said, "Hey, sexy." There are very few people I know who would IM me that, even jokingly.
I wrote back, "Who is this?" then the person immediately got offline. I Googled the screen name and in the list of results from the search was the Facebook page of the husband of one of my friends.
My friend lives across the country. We haven't talked directly in years but send each other cards. We are not close. The husband seems to use this screen name for everything (Facebook, e-mail, IM), so it's definitely him.
I've never actually met or talked to him before, although we're Facebook friends and he has sent me e-mails (I'm on a distribution list) to announce their kids' births, etc.
I figure either he IM'd the wrong person, someone hacked his account or he's a scumbag. But then further down the list of results in the Google search was a link to a personal ad he posted on an adult Web site.
He posted his age and said he's married and bisexual and is looking for e-mails, chats, meetings and "casual encounters" with women or couples.
It's definitely my friend's husband because of the unique screen name and the city he lives in.
Maybe my friend and her husband are into this together. She doesn't seem like the type, but you never know. If not, my heart breaks for her and her 3-year-old and newborn.
Should I tell her about this? I would hate for her to be in the dark or feel like a fool later if she finds out herself. I have considered sending her an anonymous e-mail from a dummy e-mail account.
If this scumbag sent you an instant message and then immediately hopped off when you replied, then he's not very good at being a scumbag, if you think about it.