What 'zero tolerance' meant for my son
In a letter last month to The Post on the Fairfax schools' "zero-tolerance" discipline policy, Centreville High School teacher David Campbell referred to a student who "complained that his disciplinary hearing was 'degrading,' and that he was 'treat[ed] like a criminal.'" Mr. Campbell was talking about my son, Dante Verme. Perhaps readers would be interested in the full story, which suggests that the strengths and weakness of Fairfax's system are less black-and-white than some might think.
Dante's main offense (or "crime," as Mr. Campbell called it) was graffiti. He spray-painted a smiley face and signed his nickname on a high school wall. He also trespassed at two other schools but left no additional graffiti.
My son made a big mistake. He regrets it and has apologized. He has paid for it in many different ways, and he will continue paying until he is 22, when his ability to visit any Fairfax County school will no longer be strictly limited to his assigned program - if he behaves. Neither he nor we asked or expected the hearing officers "to boost his self-esteem," as Mr. Campbell put it. For that, fortunately, he has family, teachers and friends who recognize that he is basically a very good kid.
Because of his mistake, in January 2010, Dante was suspended and recommended for expulsion by the principal of Chantilly High, his former school. The recommendation was upheld by the Fairfax school system's central hearing office at Dante's first discipline hearing. But with the help of a lawyer and the support of family and friends, as well as Chantilly's assistant principal, his counselor, his special education and regular teachers and his football coaches, we appealed the hearing office's decision to the Fairfax County School Board.
Fortunately for Dante, the board did not concur with the recommendation of expulsion. Instead, he was placed on long-term suspension with no chance to ever return to Chantilly, or any other regular school, until the academic year was over. At that point, he applied to be reinstated into the system, and in August he was transferred by a caring and warm hearing officer - to W.T. Woodson High School, where he was warmly welcomed by his new principal, administrators, special education team, teachers, football coaches and team members.
In June 2011, Dante will be a proud graduate of W.T. Woodson, but he will always have Chantilly High School and his former coaches and teammates in his heart; no one can take that away from him. His college application essay focused on his mistake and his experience with the Fairfax hearing office. Partly on the basis of that essay, he was accepted into the three universities to which he applied. Two of them offered him scholarships.
As a family and community, we are happy and thankful that we can celebrate Dante's accomplishments and life today. We wish that every parent in this county could enjoy those same feelings. We need to join together - parents, school officials and elected leaders - to support and help students and families who have or are going through this long, isolating and difficult process. It is a process that affects the entire family - emotionally, financially and even physically - and that can easily lead to depression and even despair in an otherwise normal teenager.
We all care deeply about our children, and given that common ground, surely we can work together.