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Staying Power

Advice from couples around the Beltway and beyond on keeping the love alive

By Delece Smith-Barrow

When your job is to be a master at nightlife entertainment, temptation is everywhere. Attractive women, liquor and dimmed lights are part of a typical night on the job. But Tesfa "Taz" Wube, co-owner of Bar 7 and the marketing company Suite 202, says there isn't a dress tight enough that can distract him from his wife. The man who's made partying a profession explains how he balances clubbing and a commitment to his marriage.

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Partners at the office -- and at home:
Tesfa "Taz" and Arlene Wube

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For Taz and Arlene Wube, his wife of two years and business partner, their relationship is almost as fast-paced as the music blasting at his nightclub on a Saturday night. "We live on the edge," he says.

"Some peoples lives dictate that they can only go out once a week for dinner and spend that time together. We go out all the time." The couple, who uses a nanny to help care for their 3-year-old son, has frequent "date nights," which can involve going to the movies or dinner two or three times a month. And a weekend getaway to someplace like Miami isn't a special activity. "We just live our life," Wube says.

Part of the life Taz has created with Arlene means having her by his side during late-night outings. "She parties with me at the club," he says. "A lot of people don't party with their wives or girlfriends. [One goes] to the bar and [the other] goes to the lounge. We party in the same circles."

But even Arlene admits their close-knit partying hasn't stopped hopeful singles from approaching her. Once they realized she was taken, "they were super embarrassed," she says. "But we always try to make light and brush it off. We understand it's part of the business."

For club promoters and owners looking to balance their relationships with their career, Wube advises them to think twice before letting a flirtatious glance at the bar go too far.

"You've got to be able to have the maturity to say, 'Just because the candy is there doesn't mean I have to eat it . . . Just remember what's most important: today or tomorrow?"

The Wubes live in Washington.

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