On Forgiveness
And the last thing I learned from them on which all these other things depend, without which we cannot build a world of peace, or one America in an increasingly peaceful world, bound together in this web of mutuality, is that you can't get there unless you're willing to forgive your enemies.
I never will forget one of the most I don't think I've ever spoken about this in public before, but I one of the most meaningful, personal moments I've had as President was a conversation I had with Nelson Mandela. And I said to him I said, you know, I've read your book and I've heard you speak, and you spent time with my wife and daughter, and you've talked about inviting your jailers to your inauguration. And I said, it's very moving, and I said, you're a shrewd as well as a great man. But, come on, now, how did you really do that? You can't make me believe you didn't hate those people who did that to you for 27 years.
He said, I did hate them for quite a long time. After all, they abused me physically and emotionally. They separated me from my wife and it eventually broke my family up. They kept me from seeing my children grow up. He said, for quite a long time I hated them.
And then he said, I realized one day, breaking rocks, that they could take everything away from me everything but my mind and my heart. Now, those things I would have to give away. And I simply decided I would not give them away. (Applause.)
So, as you look around the world you see how do you explain these three children who were killed in Ireland, or all the people who were killed in the square when the people were told to leave the city hall, there was a bomb there, and then they walked out toward the bomb? What about all those families in Africa --I don't know, I can't pick up the telephone and call them and say, I'm so sorry this happened how do we find that spirit?
All of you know, I'm having to become quite an expert in this business of asking for forgiveness. (Applause.) It gets a little easier the more you do it. And if you have a family, an administration, a Congress and a whole country to ask you, you're going to get a lot of practice. (Laughter.)
But I have to tell you that in these last days, it has come home to me, again, something I first learned as President, but it wasn't burned in my bones, and that is that in order to get it, you have to be willing to give it. (Applause.)
And all of us the anger, the resentment, the bitterness, the desire for recrimination against people you believe have wronged you, they harden the heart and deaden the spirit and lead to self-inflicted wounds. And so it is important that we are able to forgive those we believe have wronged us, even as we ask for forgiveness from people we have wronged. And I heard that first first in the civil rights movement: "Love thy neighbor as thyself." (Applause.)
What does it all mean and where do we take it from here? I'm so glad John told you the story of the little kids, of whom he was one, holding the house down. I want to close with what else he said about it, because it's where I think we have to go in order for the civil rights movement to have a lasting legacy.
In the prologue of John's book, he tells the story about the kids holding the house down. And then he says the following: "More than half a century has passed since that day. And it has struck me more than once over those many years that our society is not unlike the children in that house, rocked again and again by the winds of one storm or another, the walls around us seeming at times as if they might fly apart. It seemed that way in the 1960s when America felt itself bursting at the seams; so many storms.
But the people of conscience never left the house. They never ran away. They stayed. They came together. They did the best they could, clasping hands and moving toward the corner of the house that was weakest. And then another corner would lift, and we would go there. And eventually, inevitably, the storm would settle and the house would still stand. But we knew another storm would come and we would have to do it all over again. And we did. And we still do, all of us, you and I. Children holding hands, walking with the wind. That is America to me. Not just the movement for civil rights, but the endless struggle to respond with decency, dignity and a sense of brotherhood to all the challenges that face us as a nation as a whole."
And then he says this: "That is a story, in essence, of my life, of the path to which I've been committed since I turned from a boy to a man and to which I remain committed today, a path that extends beyond the issue of race alone, beyond class as well, and gender and age and every other distinction that tends to separate us as human beings rather than bring us together. The path involves nothing less than the pursuit of the most precious and pure concept I have ever known, an ideal I discovered as a young man that has guided me like a beacon ever since. A concept called 'the beloved community.'" That is the America we are trying to create. That is the America John Lewis and his comrades on this day 35 years ago gave us the chance to build for our children.
Thank you and God bless you. (Applause.)
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