http://www.washingtonpost.com/wp-dyn/style/columns/tellmeaboutit?nav=rss_style/columns/tellmeaboutitTell Me About Iten-us1514020http://www.washingtonpost.comhttp://media.washingtonpost.com/wp-srv/hp/image/wp_web.gifhttp://www.washingtonpost.com/wp-dyn/articles/A7894-2005Apr21.html?nav=rss_style/columns/tellmeaboutithttp://www.washingtonpost.com/wp-dyn/articles/A7894-2005Apr21.html?nav=rss_style/columns/tellmeaboutitSun, 24 Apr 2005 7:50:13 GMT Found out that my ex had cheated on me, while we were still together. I know it shouldn't make a difference now, but it does. I keep thinking back to the times where I thought she had been cheating. I would analyze the situations and I would...]]> Carolyn Haxhttp://www.washingtonpost.com/wp-dyn/articles/A7945-2005Apr21.html?nav=rss_style/columns/tellmeaboutithttp://www.washingtonpost.com/wp-dyn/articles/A7945-2005Apr21.html?nav=rss_style/columns/tellmeaboutitSun, 24 Apr 2005 7:50:13 GMT I am getting married in a few months and I have a problem, which I see will recur every year from now on. My fiance's family plans trips every year for the week of Christmas. They are usually far away, sunny and very nice. Recently, I got "a...]]> Carolyn Haxhttp://www.washingtonpost.com/wp-dyn/articles/A2947-2005Apr19.html?nav=rss_style/columns/tellmeaboutithttp://www.washingtonpost.com/wp-dyn/articles/A2947-2005Apr19.html?nav=rss_style/columns/tellmeaboutitSun, 24 Apr 2005 7:50:13 GMT I recently went out with a man who is seven years older than I am (I'm 23). We had a great time together and I'd really like to continue seeing him. Earlier today I received an e-mail from him saying he's concerned about the age difference but that we...]]> Carolyn Haxhttp://www.washingtonpost.com/wp-dyn/articles/A55202-2005Apr14.html?nav=rss_style/columns/tellmeaboutithttp://www.washingtonpost.com/wp-dyn/articles/A55202-2005Apr14.html?nav=rss_style/columns/tellmeaboutitSun, 24 Apr 2005 7:50:13 GMT I'm a 15-year-old girl and have a twin brother. I really love my dad, but he has little interest in doing things with me. He spends lots of time with my brother every weekend, taking him to ballgames and playing golf and tennis with him, and they...]]> Carolyn Haxhttp://www.washingtonpost.com/wp-dyn/articles/A55137-2005Apr14.html?nav=rss_style/columns/tellmeaboutithttp://www.washingtonpost.com/wp-dyn/articles/A55137-2005Apr14.html?nav=rss_style/columns/tellmeaboutitSun, 24 Apr 2005 7:50:13 GMT My boyfriend and I have been together for the past 2 1/2 years and our relationship is really stable and comfortable. He's a great guy and I can count on him to be there for me no matter what (he'll forgive me for anything because he really wants us...]]> Carolyn Haxhttp://www.washingtonpost.com/wp-dyn/articles/A48127-2005Apr12.html?nav=rss_style/columns/tellmeaboutithttp://www.washingtonpost.com/wp-dyn/articles/A48127-2005Apr12.html?nav=rss_style/columns/tellmeaboutitSun, 24 Apr 2005 7:50:13 GMT Before my husband and I married we discussed kids, and, although he admitted he'd never had an overwhelming desire to have any, he knew how much it meant to me and agreed that one would be okay. Fine. Except that every time it comes up, he gets...]]> Carolyn Haxhttp://www.washingtonpost.com/wp-dyn/articles/A35777-2005Apr7.html?nav=rss_style/columns/tellmeaboutithttp://www.washingtonpost.com/wp-dyn/articles/A35777-2005Apr7.html?nav=rss_style/columns/tellmeaboutitSun, 24 Apr 2005 7:50:13 GMT Five years ago I started what would become a three-year relationship with a man who I now recognize was extremely controlling and emotionally abusive (and, once, physically abusive). He finally stopped calling two years ago.]]> Carolyn Haxhttp://www.washingtonpost.com/wp-dyn/articles/A35866-2005Apr7.html?nav=rss_style/columns/tellmeaboutithttp://www.washingtonpost.com/wp-dyn/articles/A35866-2005Apr7.html?nav=rss_style/columns/tellmeaboutitSun, 24 Apr 2005 7:50:13 GMT Is it wrong for a 30-year-old (or anyone, for that matter) to want a job with less responsibility? How does one go about explaining this desire to family, friends and/or potential employers?]]> Carolyn Haxhttp://www.washingtonpost.com/wp-dyn/articles/A28523-2005Apr5.html?nav=rss_style/columns/tellmeaboutithttp://www.washingtonpost.com/wp-dyn/articles/A28523-2005Apr5.html?nav=rss_style/columns/tellmeaboutitSun, 24 Apr 2005 7:50:13 GMT This may seem ridiculous, especially in one of the most overeducated cities on Earth, but I need help. I'm 35 and I want to get my undergraduate degree. I attempted college at the usual age and totally bombed out my freshman year. I know there are...]]> Carolyn Haxhttp://www.washingtonpost.com/wp-dyn/articles/A17347-2005Mar31.html?nav=rss_style/columns/tellmeaboutithttp://www.washingtonpost.com/wp-dyn/articles/A17347-2005Mar31.html?nav=rss_style/columns/tellmeaboutitSun, 24 Apr 2005 7:50:13 GMT I am organizing a birthday party for my 8-year-old son. One of the neighborhood mothers called the other day, asking for gift ideas. I told her a gift wasn't necessary (and I meant it!) but she insisted. Since I didn't want to run the risk of...]]> Carolyn Haxhttp://www.washingtonpost.com/wp-dyn/articles/A17456-2005Mar31.html?nav=rss_style/columns/tellmeaboutithttp://www.washingtonpost.com/wp-dyn/articles/A17456-2005Mar31.html?nav=rss_style/columns/tellmeaboutitSun, 24 Apr 2005 7:50:13 GMT I want to get engaged after two years of dating, a year of it living together, but BF isn't ready. I know I can't make him ready and we're only mid-twenties, but how do I cope while I wait and not make either of us crazy? I will give up when I...]]> Carolyn Haxhttp://www.washingtonpost.com/wp-dyn/articles/A11346-2005Mar29.html?nav=rss_style/columns/tellmeaboutithttp://www.washingtonpost.com/wp-dyn/articles/A11346-2005Mar29.html?nav=rss_style/columns/tellmeaboutitSun, 24 Apr 2005 7:50:13 GMT My paycheck goes straight into our joint account, where it is strictly budgeted. My wife is at home with our kids, but she picks up a few thousand a year from various projects. She treats this as "her" money. Am I out of line to expect this to be...]]> Carolyn Haxhttp://www.washingtonpost.com/wp-dyn/articles/A64564-2005Mar24.html?nav=rss_style/columns/tellmeaboutithttp://www.washingtonpost.com/wp-dyn/articles/A64564-2005Mar24.html?nav=rss_style/columns/tellmeaboutitSun, 24 Apr 2005 7:50:13 GMT I am a 26-year-old woman who is ready to settle down. I recently started dating a guy and things are going well. He's funny, smart, and I am attracted to him. Unfortunately, there is someone else whom I can't get out of my mind. Someone I have...]]> Carolyn Haxhttp://www.washingtonpost.com/wp-dyn/articles/A64673-2005Mar24.html?nav=rss_style/columns/tellmeaboutithttp://www.washingtonpost.com/wp-dyn/articles/A64673-2005Mar24.html?nav=rss_style/columns/tellmeaboutitSun, 24 Apr 2005 7:50:13 GMT Before we married, my husband and I enjoyed doing fun stuff together. Now, he just wants to watch TV or play video games. When he does leave the couch, it's to play poker or basketball with his guy friends. He NEVER helps me around the house...]]> Carolyn Haxhttp://www.washingtonpost.com/wp-dyn/articles/A58524-2005Mar22.html?nav=rss_style/columns/tellmeaboutithttp://www.washingtonpost.com/wp-dyn/articles/A58524-2005Mar22.html?nav=rss_style/columns/tellmeaboutitSun, 24 Apr 2005 7:50:13 GMT I am a single mother to my 1-year-old daughter, and I work at least 45 hours per week to support us. (FWIW, I have plenty of friends and some family who help on a regular basis.) I love her so much but can't stop feeling like a bad mother. When I...]]> Carolyn Haxhttp://www.washingtonpost.com/wp-dyn/articles/A45658-2005Mar17.html?nav=rss_style/columns/tellmeaboutithttp://www.washingtonpost.com/wp-dyn/articles/A45658-2005Mar17.html?nav=rss_style/columns/tellmeaboutitSun, 24 Apr 2005 7:50:13 GMT I asked my best friend from law school to be my maid of honor. (It was a tough decision, as I have another close friend.) My MOH has never been a really outgoing, enthusiastic person and she is going through a really hard time now -- breaking...]]> Carolyn Haxhttp://www.washingtonpost.com/wp-dyn/articles/A45540-2005Mar17.html?nav=rss_style/columns/tellmeaboutithttp://www.washingtonpost.com/wp-dyn/articles/A45540-2005Mar17.html?nav=rss_style/columns/tellmeaboutitSun, 24 Apr 2005 7:50:13 GMT I moved in with my boyfriend a little more than a year ago. I knew he was the person I wanted to spend the rest of my life with, even if we never got married. Two months ago we agreed to get married for technical reasons (health insurance and...]]> Carolyn Haxhttp://www.washingtonpost.com/wp-dyn/articles/A38663-2005Mar15.html?nav=rss_style/columns/tellmeaboutithttp://www.washingtonpost.com/wp-dyn/articles/A38663-2005Mar15.html?nav=rss_style/columns/tellmeaboutitSun, 24 Apr 2005 7:50:13 GMT My husband got laid off in 2003. Since then he has floundered through various part-time jobs trying to figure out what to do with his life (he is 28).]]> Carolyn Haxhttp://www.washingtonpost.com/wp-dyn/articles/A25579-2005Mar10.html?nav=rss_style/columns/tellmeaboutithttp://www.washingtonpost.com/wp-dyn/articles/A25579-2005Mar10.html?nav=rss_style/columns/tellmeaboutitSun, 24 Apr 2005 7:50:13 GMT Last year my husband and I got married in a quick civil ceremony, to be followed by a more formal one with all our family and friends at a later date.]]> Carolyn Haxhttp://www.washingtonpost.com/wp-dyn/articles/A25640-2005Mar10.html?nav=rss_style/columns/tellmeaboutithttp://www.washingtonpost.com/wp-dyn/articles/A25640-2005Mar10.html?nav=rss_style/columns/tellmeaboutitSun, 24 Apr 2005 7:50:13 GMT When do you decide that a long-distance relationship is over? My girlfriend and I have been dating four years, two years long-distance since we moved to different states for grad school. Lately, I feel like she is dragging out breaking up with...]]> Carolyn Hax