It started with the small things, Yali says.
She missed her college graduation in New York City when her girlfriend insisted that being alone together was a better way to celebrate. Soon, she stopped talking to nearly all of her old friends and family: her girlfriend told her they’d just brainwash her into being heterosexual again. Her girlfriend was quick to lose her temper, but Yali, who asked that her last name be withheld, brushed it off as a personality quirk. After all, Yali had just come out a few months earlier. She felt simply grateful to find love and belonging with an older woman who knew her way around New York’s gay community.
Then came the hitting.