In "Behind Every Great Woman There's a Fabulous Gay Man: Advice From a Guy Who Gives It to You Straight" (Penguin, $12.95), Dave Singleton recommends some spots for meeting straight men: pool halls, golf courses, adventuring clubs, the Internet, sports venues, continuing education classes, church, the gym, work, rock concerts, Las Vegas, speed dating, the beach, coffee shops, black-tie events, volunteering and anywhere when you aren't looking.
He also offers advice on how to meet men. Here are some of his tips:
1. On a Clear Day You Can See Forever -- So Clarify. Why are you spending your time doing what you do? If your goal is to meet an eligible straight man, then rearrange your schedule (and maybe your priorities) to make sure you aren't filling all your time with straight-man-repellent activities.
2. Follow the Rules of Vegas, and Go With Winning Odds. Go to SMF (straight-man-friendly) destinations and boost your chances of meeting Mr. Right.
3. Avoid Pressure Cookers. Bars, singles events and blind dates increase pressure faster than a deep-sea diving adventure. Guess what else? Straight men, at least the kind you'd probably like, won't shine in those situations. Find activities and events where the social awkwardness will be diffused. Activities where you actually do something, whether it's participating in a class or going on a hike, are best.
4. Be More Targeted Than a Marketing Campaign. Target isn't just a store. It's a crucial dating principle, vastly underused by the populace. You want a 33-year-old quiet Jewish doctor from Queens who likes contemporary art and squash? Make sure you state that to your friends and in personal ads, go to the museums where you'd be likely to meet him, join a squash group at your gym. The man you seek isn't at a sports bar.
5. Act "As If" You Are a Gay Man. Enjoy yourself, don't project so much, and don't treat straight, eligible men as if they are white tigers at the zoo.
Reprinted from Behind Every Great Woman There's a Fabulous Gay Man by Dave Singleton by arrangement with Perigee, a member of Penguin Group (USA) Inc., Copyright (c) 2005 by Dave Singleton.