To become an "androgynous manager," psychologist Alice G. Sargent writes in her book "Beyond Sex Roles, "women should:

Learn how to be powerful and forthright.

Become entrepreneurial.

Have a direct, visible impact on others, rather than just functioning behind the scenes.

State their needs and refuse to back down, even if the immediate response is not acceptance.

Focus on a task and regard it as important as the relationships with the people doing the task.

Build support systems with other women and share competence, rather than compete with them.

Stop turning anger, blame and pain inward.

Become risk-takers. Men, she says, should:

Regard feelings as a basic and essential part of life, as guides to authenticity and effectiveness, rather than as impediments.

Accept the vulnerability and imperfections that are part of all persons.

Assert the right to work for self-fulfillment, instead of only necessary in the role of provider.

Value an identity that is not defined totally by work.

Learn how to fail at a task without feeling failure as a man.

Accept and express the need to be nurtured, rather than hiding behind a mask of strength, rationality and invulnerability.

Share feelings as the most meaningful part of one's contact with others, accepting the implied risk and vulnerability.

Build support systems with other men, sharing competencies without competition.

Nurture and actively support other men and women in their efforts to change.