To start a family council, family therapist Rob Guttenberg suggests:

1. Briefly describe the idea to family members and invite each to join.

2. Ask 'When would be a good time for everyone?' and decide on a mutually convenient meeting place and time.

3. Announce the time and place of the first meeting, and hold the meeting even if some members don't attend. Don't remind everyone or round them up.

4.Decide who will start as chairman, remembering that the chairmanship will rotate each meeting or each month. (Some families rotate by age or alphabetically by first name.)

5. Guttenburg will conduct a workshop on starting family councils Saturday, Oct. 11, from 10 a.m. to 3 p.m. at the Takoma Park Elementary School. $25 per family. Scholarships available. Call Takoma Park Family Education Center, 589-9360, or 270-8921 after 5 p.m.

For more information on family councils:

"The Family Council," a booklet by Kleona Rigney and Raymond Corsini, available for 50 cents from the Alfred Adler Institute, 159 N. Dearborn, Chicago, Ill. 60601.

"How to Stop Fighting With Your Kids" by Rudolph Dreikurs, Raymond Corsini and Shirley Gould (Ace Books). Abailable in libraries.

"A Practical Guide for Family Meetings," 53 cents, IPA Family Education Center, 6050 Wisconsin Ave., Chevy Chase, Md. 20015.