"I remember his crying bitterly only two times," said Maxim Shostakovich yesterday of his father, Dmitri, the great Russian composer: "First, when my mother died, and second, when he came home having been forced to join the Communist Party."

Maxim Shostakovich is in town to conduct the National Symphony Orchestra this week in four concerts of his father's music, marking the anniversary of the composer's birth.

"Now, in honor of his 75th anniversary, the Soviet Union is issuing a new set of his complete works," Shostakovich noted at a press conference in the Kennedy Center. "But even here the narrow-minded functionaries of the government are interfering. For instance, all of the dedications to family and friends have been deleted: those to Rostropovich, to my mother, to violinist David Oistrakh, to me and to others. I am wondering, will they delete the dedication of the Twelfth Symphony to Lenin?"

Gallery Row, a complex of art galleries, a Highland Place town house and the design of the Thomas Jefferson Building of the Library of Congress all won first awards for architectural and historical preservation from the American Institute of Architects' Washington Metropolitan chapter at a dinner last night at the Cosmos Club.

Charles Szoradi won the first award for the remodeling of Mr. and Mrs. Jeffrey Cohen's 1895 house. Hartman and Cox won the award for the Gallery Row rebuilding at 401-417 Seventh St. NW. George M. White, architect of the Capitol, with William L. Ensign, assistant architect, and Arthur Cotton Moore/Associates won for the as-yet unexecuted restoration of the library.

Merit awards went to Ian Birchall with Paul Devrouax Associates for 4 Logan Circle, the former home of Gen. John A. Logan, remodeled into apartments for John Ritch Associates; Hartman and Cox for the as-yet unexecuted design for the Central National Triangle, 625-633 Pennsylvania Ave. NW, owned by Central National Bank Redevelopment Group; and Skidmore, Owings & Merrill for an unexecuted design for Baltimore's Pennsylvania Station.

Citations went to Yerkes, Pappas and Parker for a redecorated executive suite at the Hay-Adams for Time Inc.; to Paul Devrouax Associates for the rebuilding of the 1900 Iowa apartment building at 1325 13th St. NW owned by David Clark; and to Leon Chatelain III for the restoration of a 1770 house, Bell Mont, at Leesburg, Va.

About $124,700 has been raised so far to redecorate Vice President George Bush's official residence at the Naval Observatory in Northwest Washington, according to his press secretary, Peter Teeley. Teeley said that 18 individuals or couples, all friends of the Bushes, have made tax-deductible contributions to a fund run by oilman Earle Craig Jr. and his wife, Dorothy, of Midland, Tex.

Twelve contributors donated $10,000 each, the limit set by Bush. "The vice president felt a $10,000 donation to the Navy was adequate," Teeley explained. (The house is owned and maintained by the Navy.) The funds will be used to refurbish four public rooms that are used regularly for official entertaining.

Klaus Tennstedt, one of today's most sought-after conductors, will take over as principal conductor of the London Philharmonic Orchestra in 1983, it was announced in London yesterday.

Tennstedt, who is 54, will replace Sir Georg Solti, 68, who is retiring from the London post, which he has held simultaneously with the music directorship of the Chicago Symphony.

The announcement follows widespread rumors that London orchestra musicians were unhappy with the Hungarian-born maestro's commitment to the internationally acclaimed Chicago Symphony.

But at a news conference yesterday, Solti dismissed any suggestion of a rift and said he merely wanted to reduce his commitments, the Associated Press reported.

Solti has recently agreed to a new contract with the Chicago Symphony that will run through 1985.

Tennstedt, whose career was based in East Germany, escaped to the West in 1971. He had conducted for the Dresden Opera from 1958 to 1962. In 1974 he made his U.S. debut with the Boston Symphony.