I've just returned from my dry cleaner and am still fuming! For the second time in two weeks I've had to have a skirt "re-done" because it wasn't ironed properly. Actually, it wasn't ironed at all. Isn't a dry cleaner responsible for not only cleaning a garment, but pressing it too?

YES, and don't let your dry cleaner tell you any differently! According to Norman Oehlke, director of consumer relations at the International Fabricare Institute, the definition of dry cleaning includes "cleaning, spot removal and finishing, and ironing most definitely is a part of finishing." And you shouldn't be charged extra if, for example, your dry cleaner has to use a hand iron to touch up wrinkled spots, such as under the arms or the "seat" of a skirt. "If the garment has to be totally hand finished," says Oehlke, "the cleaner should tell you this beforehand and this may result in an added cost. But that's the exception, not the norm."

Help! I want to make my own wedding dress, but every time I find a pattern I like there's always one thing about it I don't like--the sleeves, neckline, bodice. Any suggestions?

Alma Burge has created a set of "mix and match" patterns for Bridal Elegance, which allows a bride to choose component parts of a wedding gown. Bridal Elegance has put together a 60-page paper doll "Bridal Gown Design Booklet" that can show you over 1,000 different possibilities. To order the booklet, send $4.50 plus $1 postage and handling to Bridal Elegance, 1176 Northport Dr., Columbus, Ohio 43220.

My son is going off to college in the fall, and I want to monogram some shirts for him. I once saw a model with a monogram on his collar. Is that the latest style?

Monograms can be elegant if they are small and in subtle places. Skip the collar and cuffs and place the monogram on the shirt pocket or on the left side of the shirt just up from the waist if there is no pocket. Keep the monogram small and discreet.