What Drs. Spock and Rothenberg have to say about:
Babies' Crying: " . . . There is a lot of fretting and crying that can't be explained by any . . . reasons."
Strictness: " . . . Strictness or permissiveness is not the real issue. Good-hearted parents who aren't afraid to be firm when it is necessary can get good results with either moderate strictness or moderate permissiveness. On the other hand, a strictness that comes from harsh feelings or a permissiveness that is timid or vacillating can each lead to poor results. The real issue is what spirit the parent puts into managing the child and what attitude is engendered in the child as a result."
Parents' Rights: "Since having children does mean giving up so much, good parents naturally do, and should, expect something from their children in return . . . considerateness, affectionateness and willingness to accept the parents' standards and ideals . . ."
Parents and Work: "Both parents have an equal right to a career if they want one, it seems to me, and an equal obligation to share in the care of their children, with or without the help of others. (If they want others to do it all, I'd advise against their having children.)"
School: "The main lesson in school is how to get along in the world. Different subjects are merely means to this end."
Nuclear War: "The fear of nuclear war is almost universal among children and is realistic . . .
Parents can give their children partial reassurance if they can say, 'Yes, there is danger, but it need not happen if we will all work politically for peace . . .' "
Idealism: "A child raised to have ideals will have no lack of opportunities to apply them. There are enormous, frightening problems in our country and in the world . . . Our only realistic hope as I see it is to bring up our children with a feeling that they are in this world not for their own satisfaction but primarily to serve others. Children are proud to think that they can be truly useful and will rise to the challenge. This can begin very young . . ."
Drugs: "In speaking to a young teen-ager about drugs I would say . . . 'Tobacco causes many deaths from cancer and heart disease. Most doctors have quit because of what they've seen, though quitting is difficult and painful. Alcoholism causes disease and death, and ruins millions of families. Even the mild drug marijuana makes it easier for a few heavy users to get off the track.
" 'The stage of life you will be going through now is the most difficult of all . . . I wish that you would wait until you are 18 or 20, when things will have settled down and you'll know more about what you want out of life, before you decide whether or not to drink, smoke tobacco, smoke pot . . .'
"This advice is a lot more persuasive if the parents are not using alcohol, tobacco, tranquilizers, or stimulants."