This weekend, nothing was too good for Tami Rose Hoekstra.
Not the white Rolls-Royce with a police escort to the Sheraton-Carlton, the $50,000 worth of fresh flowers, the pinwheels of smoked salmon and the lobster medallions on toast with aspic and truffles, the six Greek statues and the Corinthian columns, the 60 limousines with one allotted for Tami's 10-foot bridal train, the 10 bridesmaids, the 10 groomsmen, the two doves, the little white slipper-shaped party favors filled with rice, and certainly not the 425 guests from Chicago and Mexico City.
It was Tami Rose Hoekstra's wedding -- the day when two families, who had been friends for years, came together to see Tami become Mrs. Juan Jose Rocha of Mexico City in a ceremony at St. Matthew's Cathedral.
And it cost $250,000.
"This is how the Hoekstras do things," said Lisa Amani, 16, sister of the maid of honor. She had flown in from Lake Forest, Ill., which is where Tami and her mother, Carol Reed Hoekstra, are from. Carol Hoekstra is the owner of James B. Downing and Co., operators of lactose and animal-feed production plants.
Would you say that for this wedding money was no object?
"I wouldn't put it that way," said Sandra Amani, 15, another sister of the maid of honor. "I think Mrs. Hoekstra wanted to make it beautiful for Tami."
Tami and Juan met in Acapulco through a mutual friend and had been spending a lot of time in Mexico City, but Tami's mother wanted the wedding to be in Washington.
Before Carol Hoekstra's husband died, about six years ago, the Hoekstras loved visiting Washington and loved staying at the Sheraton-Carlton.
"Mr. Hoekstra was very politically interested in the country," said Lynn Coppersmith, personal secretary to Carol Hoekstra. "He was a very brilliant man. He liked the United States. He was very patriotic."
So they decided to have the wedding here.
Glen Godden, the Sheraton-Carlton hotel catering director, had been in on the planning since March.
No alcohol was to be served at all. Instead white-gloved waiters passed sparkling grape juice and sodas on silver trays. Carol Hoekstra also had all alcoholic beverages in personal bars in the guests' rooms replaced with sodas.
"I know that she's a deeply religious person," said Josh Lanier, head of the Presidential Yacht Trust -- The Sequoia, "but I've never heard her make a comment about alcohol one way or the other." Josh Lanier was one of the Washingtonians at the wedding. "I've been to at least 2,000 congressional receptions and I have to say this certainly stands out."
Carol Hoekstra paid attention to detail. She provided a professional presser for her guests' garments from Thursday night through Saturday. She arranged a dinner at Dominique's on Wednesday night, a tour of Mount Vernon and luncheon at the George Washington Club, a dinner hosted by Mark Cannon, administrative assistant to Chief Justice Warren Burger, a dinner at Hogate's, a luncheon for bridesmaids at Mrs. K's Toll House, and two rehearsal dinners -- some guests going on the Sequoia and some going to the Grand Hotel.
She worried about where the 20 strings would stand as the guests arrived and where the harp would be placed. And when the two trumpeters should lead the guests to dinner. And where the rock band would go. And when the mariachi band would play.
But mixed in with the happiness was tragedy -- the earthquakes in Mexico. Almost 150 guests were scheduled to come from Mexico, but several returned abruptly before the wedding to be with family and friends and others canceled.
Still, it all went on, with Carol Hoekstra and Tami and Juan smiling and shaking hands, on through the night and all day yesterday, until the last of the meals was served (only about 200 were expected for this one) and the couple on their way to some secret spot to be alone before going to live in Mexico City.
You're wondering if Tami Rose Hoekstra Rocha has some sisters?