Spousal Summit: This much is firm --

Nancy Reagan and Raisa Gorbachev's meeting will be over tea on Nov. 19, the first day of their husbands' two-day summit in Geneva.

Mrs. Reagan's meeting with the wife of Soviet leader Mikhail Gorbachev will take place at the residence the Swiss have set aside for the Reagans during their stay.

Nobody is yet confirming it -- least of all the White House -- but the word out of Moscow is that Mrs. Gorbachev will reciprocate the following day by inviting Mrs. Reagan over to her place.

Credit Washington's own Karen Akers when the show goes on tonight at the White House dinner President and Mrs. Reagan are giving for Singapore's Prime Minister Lee Kuan Yew.

The cabaret-style singer and actress came to the Reagans' rescue late yesterday after singer Peggy Lee canceled. A spokesman for Lee, who has had several successful angioplasties, said yesterday that Lee was hospitalized when she became ill during an engagement in New Orleans and is now awaiting the results of an angiogram.

Akers, married to a Washington attorney, currently is filming "Heartburn," in which she is playing the Other Woman. She had a small singing part in "Purple Rose of Cairo" and won critical acclaim when she debuted in the Broadway musical "Nine."

The rest of tonight's celebrity lineup includes Sylvester Stallone, Raquel Welch, Michael J. Fox and Natalie Cole. Stallone's newest film, "Rocky IV," opens Nov. 27 around the country. He's bringing girlfriend Brigitte Nielsen, who has a role in "Rocky IV." Stallone's next movie will be "Cobra," in which he'll play a cop and Nielsen a femme fatale.

That barge cruising the Potomac last night wasn't hauling coal. Secretary of State George Shultz borrowed it from the chief of naval operations as the setting for an intimate dinner he gave visiting Prime Minister Lee.

Shultz and Lee's friendship goes back a few semesters. In fact, a week after Shultz was sworn in as secretary of state he took Lee along as his guest to the annual Bohemian Grove encampment north of San Francisco, where some of the country's most powerful politicians, industrialists, bankers and others get together for what's been called "the world's most exclusive summer camp."

Shultz's other guests last night included Singapore's Ambassador Tommy Koh, U.S. Ambassador to Singapore Stapleton Roy, Undersecretary (Political Affairs) Michael H. Armacost, and Assistant Secretary for East Asian and Pacific Affairs Paul D. Wolfowitz.

Nepal's Ambassador Bhekh Bahadur Thapa, going home after five years, may not know what he'll do when he gets there, but Pakistan's Ambassador Ejaz Azim has some ideas. "His majesty will never let him alone, and Bhekh can never deny the call of the trumpet," Azim predicted, raising his glass to Thapa and his wife Rita at a dinner he and his wife the Begum Shahida gave the other night.

There's some historical basis for that kind of speculation. In 1965, Thapa, who was head of Nepal's planning commission, was informed by the Claremont Colleges in California that time was running out for him to submit his doctoral thesis and if he didn't get it in that fall he'd lose the chance.

Thapa went to the king, father of the present king, to ask for a leave of absence. The king wasn't impressed. "Why do you need that degree?" the king asked Thapa. "I've already given you a high job and I never asked you whether you had a doctorate."

Thapa stood his ground. He said the job the king gave him wasn't for life, though the degree would be. Eventually, they worked out a compromise.

That fall the king sent Thapa to represent Nepal at the United Nations General Assembly. Every day Thapa turned up at hearings where, wearing earphones, he scribbled notes nonstop. Even when his neighbor, the Dutch representative, told him that the proceedings were nothing more than a rehash of the previous year, Thapa kept writing. "Nepal must be the best briefed government in the whole world," marveled the Dutchman, Jan Hendrik Lubbers.

Years later, when Lubbers was the Dutch ambassador here, Thapa confessed what he had been writing at those UN hearings: "I'd pull the plug on my earphones and write my thesis in longhand. When the General Assembly ended, I sent it off to Claremont saying, 'Take it or leave it.' They took it," said Thapa, who went on to become Nepal's minister of finance and who some think may one day be prime minister.

One story may be overlooked in the many about Washington's women journalists that a National Press Club committee is collecting for an Oct. 22 tribute to their achievements. This one concerns Nover News Service's Naomi Nover, who learned her trade from her husband, the late Barnet Nover, correspondent for such publications as The Denver Post.

"Naomi helped her husband obtain news scoops by cooking gourmet meals for presidents, Supreme Court justices, Cabinet members and others," veteran newswoman Sarah McClendon writes in a preliminary script from which ABC's Sam Donaldson and CBS' Diane Sawyer are expected to draw the tribute script.

Naomi Nover was among White House correspondents covering President Reagan's 1984 trip to the People's Republic of China. Unrelenting in her quest for detail, she was determined to have a close-up view as the Reagans inspected the bronze figures unearthed at Xian. Chinese officials had been adamant that reporters not be permitted beyond a certain point, so it was with some astonishment that Nover's American colleagues saw the Chinese assisting her into the forbidden area.

Only later did reporters learn why. One Chinese official, upon seeing an American dollar bill, had mistaken the silver-haired Nover for none other than George Washington.

Nancy Reagan is lending her name to the Lab School of Washington's big Oct. 30 benefit honoring six Outstanding Learning Disabled Achievers: investment banker G. Chris Andersen, actor Tom Cruise, Olympic champion Bruce Jenner, artist Robert Rauschenberg, real estate developer Richard C. Strauss, and singer and actress Cher. They'll all be in town that night at a gala dinner dance (tickets range from $150 to $5,000 for benefactor status) at Hecht's Metro Center.

Cher told the benefit committee, co-chaired by publicist Joe Canzeri and Sen. Paul Laxalt's wife Carol Laxalt, that she always thought she was just plain stupid. She began to think differently when her and Sonny Bono's teen-aged daughter Chastity started showing signs of dyslexia in high school. Cher said she finally decided to accept the award to help Chastity feel better about herself.