I am going to attend an organization's luncheon at which the speaker will be a national celebrity. Four or five years ago, this person and I exchanged correspondence on a subject of mutual interest.

May I ask the chairman to a) seat me at the celebrity's table or b) introduce us even if I sit at another table? If not, may I approach the celebrity and introduce myself, reminding him of the subject of our correspondence?

Although the celebrity may well be delighted to find someone there with whom he has demonstrated a mutual interest, this does not entitle you to seating preference. You may mention your connection to the chairman, who may then want to bring you forward.

You certainly may remind the celebrity of the exchange, provided you do so with a clear explanation to recall it to him if he has forgotten. Also, you might consider sending a note to the celebrity's hotel, mentioning the exchange and saying how much you are looking forward to meeting him.

While entertaining relatives in our home, I noticed my brother-in-law had tracked black shoe marks over my new carpet.

I called this to my husband's attention, but he did not want me to say anything, as he felt it would spoil his brother's evening.

I followed my husband's advice and kept silent, although I was very upset. After they left, I used stain remover on the spots and they came out. Should I have kept silent?

One does not have to keep silent with a relative. You could have said, "Oh, dear, what's that on your shoes?" in a concerned voice, provided you brushed aside apologies for the rug marks with "Oh, don't worry about that -- I'm sure it will come out." Feeling incorrect? Address your etiquette questions (in black or blue-black ink on white writing paper) to Miss Manners, in care of this newspaper.

1987, United Feature Syndicate, Inc.