Tennis ace John McEnroe got into a shoving match at San Francisco International Airport yesterday when United Airlines refused to hold a flight to Hawaii for him and his wife Tatum O'Neil, their two children and a nanny. Their flight from Los Angeles had been delayed, causing them to be late for the connection. An airport spokesman said an agent tried to close off the boarding gate to the plane, which had 133 passengers on board and had been waiting several minutes for McEnroe's party. McEnroe, 31, began shouting and shoving an agent, who struggled with the door and the athlete. Police were called to the gate, but no one was arrested and an airline spokesman said no charges would be pressed against McEnroe. The plane left without him.

Cooke Meets Daughter

Jack Kent Cooke has finally met his daughter by his former wife Suzanne, according to a Knight-Ridder report. The meeting last week in Los Angeles was not planned. Cooke, his new wife, Marlene Ramallo Chalmers, Suzanne and daughter Jacqueline Kent Cooke, who turns 3 next month, met in a lawyer's office during depositions for Cooke's $30-million libel suit against Washingtonian magazine.

The Show Must Go On Fast

When the best musicians in the world put on a free show, you can bet the turnout will be high. Violinist Isaac Stern, cellist Yo-Yo Ma, pianist Emanuel Ax and violist Jamie Laredo were recording together in Troy, N.Y., and decided to put on a show Tuesday afternoon in a local auditorium. When the hall was immediately filled, leaving many fans out in the street, the foursome agreed to put on another show right after the first one. Since they had been up late recording and had to continue later that day, they tried to move things along. "We're here to work," Stern said. "We have the same ahead of us today. I don't mean to be rude, but please listen and go quickly."

The Cabinet's Cabinetmaker

Interior Secretary Manuel Lujan revealed another side of himself to the world yesterday with a display of his woodworking talents in the department's workshop. He was finishing off some favors for Monday's Interior Christmas party: Small wooden cutouts in the shape of Lujan's home state of New Mexico, along with ornaments, all made from scraps and leftovers from the shop's daily woodworking. The Cabinet member is a cabinetmaker, reportedly of museum quality, whose passion will be looked at in an upcoming issue of Smithsonian magazine.

He'll also be at the lighting of the Christmas trees on the Ellipse at 5 p.m. today, with entertainment provided by country star Ricky Van Shelton.

Record Store Owner Convicted

Charles Freeman, the Florida record store owner convicted of selling obscene material in the form of a 2 Live Crew recording, was fined $1,000 by a Fort Lauderdale judge yesterday. Stating that the punishment should fit the crime, Judge Paul L. Backman ordered Freeman to pay the money to the Walker Elementary School, which specializes in the performing arts and recently had equipment stolen. Freeman, the owner of E.C. Records, said, "I'm not guilty and I'm not going to pay the fine," pointing out that retailers in Texas beat their obscenity charges. He intends to appeal.

Lancaster Still Hospitalized Burt Lancaster remains in intensive care after suffering a stroke two weeks ago. The stroke partially paralyzed the 77-year-old actor's left side, but "his spirits are high," according to his agent, Ben Benjamin. He is undergoing "extensive physical therapy and speech therapy," said Benjamin.

High-Cost Correspondence

Two handwritten letters, constituting the sum of the correspondence between two of the greatest minds in history, brought $165,000 at a Sotheby's auction Tuesday. A four-page letter from Albert Einstein from July 28, 1932, asks, "Is there a way to liberate man from the doom of war?" In the 14-page reply, Sigmund Freud discusses the human "death wish," before concluding that "There is no prospect of getting rid of this aggressive instinct."

The exchange had been at the prompting of the League of Nations, and was purchased by an unidentified American buyer.