Effi Barry's planned book will not be full of juicy tidbits on the sensational life and times of her husband, former mayor Marion Barry. According to columnist Liz Smith, Barry's estranged wife is at work on a "self-help" book to assist others in finding themselves. When asked about dealing with the inevitable pressure from people wanting to know more about the Barrys' private lives, Mrs. Barry replied: "Well, I will just do the best I can. I could not write that other kind of book. And I will just answer that my husband is a good man, who has helped many people. And I will say that everyone should try to be more understanding and forgiving of him because anything he did is the result of an illness and not of a meanness." Costner the Golden Boy

Kevin Costner got a few more feathers for his cap, as his directorial debut "Dances With Wolves" won three Golden Globe awards during ceremonies in Los Angeles Saturday. The Western epic won Best Dramatic Motion Picture laurels, Costner was named Best Director, and Michael Blake was honored for Best Screenplay. The Golden Globes are awarded by the 80 voting members of the Hollywood Foreign Press Association and are considered a good indicator of upcoming Oscar winners. Jeremy Irons won for Best Actor in a Drama for his portrayal of Claus von Bulow in "Reversal of Fortune," and the ubiquitous Gerard Depardieu won for Best Actor in a Comedy for his role in "Green Card." Kathy Bates won the Best Dramatic Actress award for her role as a deranged fan in "Misery," while Julia Roberts was named Best Actress in a Comedy for "Pretty Woman." The Best Foreign Film award went to "Cyrano de Bergerac," which also stars Depardieu in the title role.

In the television awards, "Cheers" won three Globes; it won the Best Comedy Series award while Ted Danson and Kirstie Alley won for Best Actor and Actress in a Comedy Series. David Lynch's "Twin Peaks" also won big, taking the award for Best Dramatic Series, with star Kyle MacLachlan winning for Best Actor in a Dramatic Series. Sharon Gless and Patricia Wettig shared honors for Best Actress in a Dramatic Series for their respective work in "The Trials of Rosie O'Neill" and "thirtysomething." Terrorism Threat Cancels Dance

The war in the Persian Gulf continues to have repercussions far beyond the geopolitical arena. While the aforementioned Golden Globe ceremonies suffered minor delays because of metal detectors and bomb-sniffing dogs, the threat of terrorism has caused Martha Graham to cancel her dance company's planned performances this week at the Paris Opera. Graham, in a letter to opera President Pierre Berge, said her decision was prompted by a letter received last week from Sanford Wolff of the American Guild of Musical Artists. Wolff's letter invoked a guild clause that says dancers must not be placed in life-threatening situations. The 96-year-old dance pioneer said in her letter to Berge she was "taken aback by the dancers' labor union," but acknowledged "the threat of terrorist activities, whether real or imagined is a powerful force." Shriver at Johns Hopkins

Eunice Kennedy Shriver was transferred from Sibley Memorial Hospital in Washington to Johns Hopkins Hospital in Baltimore Friday, where she will be treated for injuries suffered in an auto accident here on Wednesday. Her husband, Sargent Shriver, said in a statement that she was "eager to come to Hopkins because they have the best orthopedic specialists, and we have many friends at Johns Hopkins and in Baltimore." Shriver broke both arms in the head-on collision, and the hospital lists her condition as stable.