Jackie Onassis, Liz Taylor and Frank Sinatra all survived the sensational pen of best-selling author Kitty Kelley, and Nancy Reagan is letting it be known that she expects to survive too.

"I don't pay attention to those kinds of books," the former First Lady said here last week of Kelley's forthcoming work, "Nancy Reagan: The Unauthorized Biography," which supposedly nobody has read but which already has unloosed a flood of rumors about Mrs. Reagan's life before and during her White House years.

At a tea Thursday given by two friends, Buffy Cafritz and Carol Laxalt, Mrs. Reagan responded with an unequivocal "no" when asked if she would read the book, due for release Monday. There was mixed conjecture among those who know her well about how she will react to the reportedly critical portrait. Some friends believe she will be devastated.

"She always takes everything personally, so she'll turn to her friends and they'll put their circle around her," said one longtime acquaintance.

This same friend, who did not want to be identified, said that when Kelley approached her asking for positive as well as negative information because " 'an unbiased account was important for history,' I told her that I don't have two weeks to talk about all of Nancy's good points."

A longtime Reagan aide insists that Mrs. Reagan is "not worried about it or thinking about it.

"It's out of character, I know, because she's an admitted worrier," said Mark Weinberg, a public relations consultant who until January was Ronald Reagan's press secretary. "But there are other things important to her in her life now. You can lie awake nights worrying about something like this but I think most people will see it for what it is."

The biography's arrival in bookstores will coincide with Simon & Schuster's launch party for Kelley at the National Press Club Monday night. Although the subject of intense -- even torrid -- speculation, the book continues to be "under wraps," according to Kelley's publicist, Sandi Mendelson of Hilsinger-Mendelson in New York.

"I can't confirm speculation," Mendelson said yesterday of reports about what the book will disclose. "Nobody has read it."

Mendelson also said Simon & Schuster has offered no first serial rights, although a spokeswoman for People said Friday that the magazine was offered the Kelley book.

"They are saying they never gave it to us, but it was offered and we turned it down," the spokeswoman said, adding, "I don't know why we turned it down."

Two nationally syndicated television talk shows reportedly were pitched interviews with Kelley but declined the offers. A source said Joan Rivers, a friend of Mrs. Reagan's, flatly refused to have Kelley on the show, but a spokeswoman for Rivers said she was unaware of any such decision.

Larry King, on equally friendly terms with Mrs. Reagan, also received an offer to interview Kelley. It came during the height of the Persian Gulf War, according to a spokeswoman for "Larry King Live."

"Larry is sticking to harder news," the spokeswoman said, adding that no final decision on a Kelley interview has been made.

It took a year to get them together, but Ronald Reagan has finally met his namesake, Reagan Thompson.

Ronald Reagan, now 80, wasn't a leading man for nothing all those years in Hollywood. He promptly took Reagan Thompson, 1 year old, into his arms and started whispering sweet nothings.

"He told her the name Reagan comes from a long line of significant families and that she is related to every head of state, including the Queen {of England}," said Ann Thompson, Reagan's mother, after a photo session the former president held with former White House aides at the Madison Hotel Thursday morning.

Ronald Reagan's information comes from a family tree that Burke's Peerage drew up for his 1984 visit to Ballyporeen in County Tipperary, Ireland, birthplace of his great-grandfather Michael Reagan. According to Burke's, Ronald Reagan is distantly related to both Queen Elizabeth II and John F. Kennedy.

A spokesman for the New England Historic Genealogical Society, however, says Burke's only discovered Reagan's "temporary origins." While it is true that Clan Reagan is supposed to have descended from early Irish kings, from which Queen Elizabeth also descends, the last available document of Ronald Reagan's ancestors is an 1829 handwritten baptism entry in Ballyporeen's church register -- and upon close inspection the name could be either "Ryan" or "Reagan."

"The president may indeed have ancient ancestry," says genealogist Gary Boyd Roberts, "but his proved pedigree goes back no more than 150 years."

None of that should matter much to Reagan Thompson, whose claim to the name is sentimental, not familial. The story she can tell her grandchildren someday is how her parents flew to California while her mother was pregnant, seeking Reagan's permission to name their baby after him. Loren Thompson, young Reagan's father, went to work in the office of presidential personnel at the White House during the Reagan administration; he stayed on with the Bush administration.

Two surprise introductions awaited Ronald Reagan at George Washington University, where he received an honorary doctorate in public service Thursday. Besides the George Washington University Hospital recovery room nurse, Denise Sullivan, who held his hand that near-fatal day 10 years ago when he was shot by John Hinckley Jr., there was Kathy Paul Stevens, the emergency room nurse.

Alerted by the White House that the president's motorcade was en route, Stevens had been prepared for the worst on March 30, 1981. When she met Reagan at the door he couldn't get his breath, she recalled. Then, walking a few steps, he groaned and collapsed. What Stevens hadn't been prepared for was a Secret Service request for a wheelchair.

"I just felt so bad that we didn't have a wheelchair," Stevens said recently, describing how she and several agents carried Reagan to the trauma unit.

She later married Secret Service agent Ron Stevens, whom she met when he was assigned to the emergency room during the 12 days Reagan was hospitalized. They have two children.