I am 27 years old, and I think I'm falling in love with the right woman at the wrong time. I have just started taking an acting class at a community college.
It is one of the best things I've ever done, but I've met someone in the class whom I am falling for, big time! Unfortunately she is engaged and will be married this summer.
We've done a couple of scenes together, which means that we have had to communicate with each other outside of class, and every time we've met, I float home. She is breathtakingly beautiful. She makes me laugh and stimulates a creative side I didn't know I had.
She is an excellent actress and pushes me to be better as well.
The class is only once a week, but I look forward to that one day like Christmas morning. Just to see her face, to hear her voice is all I need to get through the rest of the week.
Sometimes I get the feeling that she is looking at me in a special way, but I could be hallucinating.
Should I tell her how I feel or just ignore it? In a month, she'll be moving out of the country, so even if I tell her I don't know what good it would do. My intention is not to break up her relationship, but I don't think I could let her walk out of my life without expressing how I feel.
What should I do?
Dazed and Confused
Well, you're in the right business. I can tell that you are passionate and creative. You are also acting. Don't forget that. Your feelings might in part be a reaction to the scenes you're working on together. You could be like one of those guys I read about in the movie magazines who always falls for the leading lady. Hello, Tom Cruise!
I don't think there's any harm in expressing yourself to her, as long as you don't pressure, crowd or show up under her window calling her "Milady" and asking her to run off with you. No matter what she says in response to you, you have to accept it, okay?
Your letter about the woman who named her dog after her neighbor's child made me smile.
With a name like "Rex," I've had many people say, "Your name is Rex? My dog's name is Rex!" The news is delivered with glee.
The solution came suddenly several years ago when a prominent man in our community said, "Rex? My dog's name is Rex!" to which I replied, "What a coincidence! My dog's name is Federico!" which, of course, was the man's name.
He thought that was hilarious, and our "dogs" (I've never had a dog) exchanged Christmas cards for years.
Rex John, Denver
This is great! If I ever run into a man named "Tippy," I'll know what not to say.
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