My in-laws are coming for a visit soon. They will be staying with my family and me.
They announced that they would be bringing their 80-pound black lab with them to our house.
This is an inside dog, and we have cats who don't get along with dogs. It is also well known (to the in-laws) that I don't care for dogs.
I am upset because they didn't ask for permission. Originally, the dog was supposed to stay at a relative's house, at my in-laws' suggestion. When I brought that up, it was dismissed with, "I'll take the dog for lots of walks, and he can stay in the car."
This dog is not used to staying in a car, except for long trips, and he is not used to being left outside.
I haven't said anything, because I'm trying to keep the peace, and I think it is my husband's place to say something. But now my husband doesn't want to say anything and thinks that the dog will be fine outdoors.
Am I being unreasonable?
What should I do?
Well, I sure hope that you enjoy your houseguests and their dog, because you and your husband's unwillingness to confront this issue pretty much guarantees that you're going to have an 80-pound black lab sleeping on your bed.
I'm not sure why keeping the peace takes precedence over your home and your own pets, not to mention this dog's well-being, but you are making a mistake in letting this slide.
Of course your husband should speak to his parents, but if he is too much of a weenie to say anything, then you should.
You should call your in-laws before they set out on their trip and give them the name of a nearby kennel. Tell them that you've called and they have room for "Buster." Boarding the dog at a nearby facility means the dog won't have to stay outside or in the car (which is quite cruel) and your in-laws can visit him for those long walks they like to take together.
I am a 15-year-old girl. I have a close friend, "Jasmine," who is my e-mail pal.
Recently, she told me that her parents don't get along well. She said it's been like this on and off for her whole life, but as she's gotten older she has become stronger.
She asked me not to tell anyone, and I said I wouldn't.
The other day she said that her life felt like a roller-coaster -- up and down and up and down again.
She said her day was perfect until her dad yelled at her sister for misbehaving and her mom was mad because she thought he shouldn't have yelled.
Amy, I felt so privileged that Jasmine would tell me what she wouldn't tell anyone else, but it is also really hard for me to bear.
I went up to my room and cried. I'm very sensitive about some things, and this is weighing very heavily on me.
I want to tell my mom, but Jasmine doesn't want me to. She and I have had a wonderful friendship for almost a year, and I don't want to ruin it by breaking my promise.
What should I do?
A Concerned Friend
It seems that you haven't met your friend in person and that you and Jasmine are e-mail friends only. This is important because you need to know that people aren't always accurate when they are describing themselves online.
Jasmine might be someone who is extra-dramatic when she has had a bad day. Obviously, you are very sensitive, and because of this you need to learn what to do when you are upset. The worst thing to do is to keep your feelings in and cry alone in your room.
I also must point out that this online buddy might not be Jasmine at all. People can pretend to be anything at all online, so unless you have met Jasmine in person and know that she is who she says she is, then Jasmine could be somebody else altogether who is taking advantage of you and your sensitive nature. Please share this with your folks right away.
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