1. Take care of yourself. Don't try to fix family and friends.

2. Get involved in things that used to make you happy.

3. Avoid self-medication and abusing substances like drugs, alcohol, caffeine, nicotine and food. Dr. Sidney Wolfe says, "Liquor and drugs reduce the perception of stress, but they don't reduce stress."

4. Be flexible, accept that you can't control everything.

5. Plan for stress. Set realistic goals that leave time for breaks and limit work. Take a stress reduction class.

6. Learn how to praise yourself and accept praise. Turn off that "constant censure" voice that always says "you should."

7. Keep a sense of humor with you at all times.

8. Start thinking about what you really want out of life.

9. Take a mental health day every two or three months.

10. Avoid sulking. Let people know what you want.

11. Learn how to express irritation and appreciation to others.

12. Pick out somebody you work with and tell them something about yourself that you haven't told anybody else.

13. Special instructions to Type As: Find a long line to wait in at the bank and wait in it. When you're ready to strangle the teller, ask yourself why you find it so boring to be with yourself. Do absolutely nothing but think about past accomplishments for 15 minutes. Hear out two people without interrupting even once. Communicate with an old friend who has a profession different from yours. Read Dr. Meyer Friedman's books and take them to heart -- yours.