Seems like everyone's on some kind of diet these days. Those who aren't avoiding carbs are watching fats. Or portion size. Or salt. Or all of the above. Is it just our impression, or are all these restrictions complicating our domestic relationships? Hungry for answers, we went to Tampa-based dietitian Cynthia Sass, co-author, along with health writer Denise Maher, of "Your Diet Is Driving Me Crazy: When Food Conflicts Get in the Way of Your Love Life" (Marlowe & Company, $14.95).
Suppose I just want to eat my baked potato in peace. But my sweetie swears by Atkins and tells me I'm eating all wrong. How do we resolve this?
It's not about who's right. It's about respecting the other person's opinion. You avoid conflict by not pushing your behavior or your beliefs on someone else.
But if we see someone eating the wrong thing, shouldn't we try to stop them?
Playing food cop and nagging doesn't work. Gently asking how you can be supportive generally works better.
What if Honey keeps bringing forbidden foods into the house?
If you're the one who's changing, you have explain to your partner what you're doing and why it's important. I hear a lot of people say they didn't realize they were sabotaging their partner's diet until the partner told them.
You're a vegetarian. How do you and your carnivorous hubby handle life's lesser challenges, like choosing a restaurant?
We'll check out a lot of menus on the Internet before we go out. Or sometimes we'll get takeout from different restaurants and eat at home. Would it be more fun if we ate hot fudge sundaes together? Probably, but there are other ways to have fun.
-- Rita Zeidner