The Rev. Jesse Jackson and the Rev. Jerry Falwell said yesterday that while they disagree over how to end apartheid in South Africa, they agree they must be civil with each other when talking about the subject.

Preaching from the pulpit of Falwell's Thomas Road Baptist Church in Lynchburg, Jackson told parishioners that while he and their pastor have political differences, they can search for common ground.

"We know that a system built on race is ungodly and . . . immoral and cannot stand," said Jackson, who shook hands with Falwell before and after his 13-minute sermon. "It must end as quickly and . . . as bloodlessly as possible."

In discussing his differences with Falwell, Jackson said, "We do not want to . . . talk about each other, but talk with each other and to agree to agree, or agree to disagree, and to be civil and in search of common ground."

In turn, Falwell said, "We have the right to agree and disagree and to do it charitably and lovingly."

Falwell has come under fire from Jackson and others for opposing economic sanctions against South Africa and labeling Bishop Desmond Tutu a "phony." Falwell apologized to Tutu but maintains that sanctions will hurt South African blacks.