Dear Dr. Gridlock:

Last week there was a letter in your column by Linette Henry of Laurel [Dr. Gridlock, Oct. 14]. She was from New York-New Jersey and was astounded at the way drivers here camp out in the left lanes.

My advice to her is to get used to the way people drive in Maryland. I've been here 25 years, and driving here has been as she describes it since I arrived.

I have driven in many other states, and Maryland is by far the most frustrating state I've driven in. I'd rather drive in Boston!

My response to Dr. Gridlock's question "Is it different in New York and New Jersey?" is a resounding yes! In general, drivers in New York, New Jersey and much of New England see you coming and move to the right. That seems to be true in many states.

The large preponderance of drivers in Maryland use the left lane as their own travel lane. They don't pull over and let someone pass. I've even had drivers look in their rearview mirrors, see me behind them and stay where they are. So much for common courtesy.

My suggestion is to learn to drive in all three lanes. Passing on the right is legal in Maryland, only one of two or three states where that is legal. Also, there is no law or rule that says people must pull over to let someone pass. In Maryland, there is no such thing as a "passing lane." All lanes are travel lanes.

Paul Otto

Davidsonville

Sad but true.

Driving Maturity

Dear Dr. Gridlock:

You asked whether drivers behave differently in New York and New Jersey. Yes, they do.

While New York and New Jersey drivers very often have unorthodox driving habits, there are a few things we do up there that people don't do down here.

First, fast in left lane, slow in right lane is the rule of the New Jersey Turnpike and Garden State Parkway. Everyone knows it, and few people fight it with childish ploys to get faster drivers to slow down.

Second, you're supposed to alternate at the point of a merge. Alternating is far more efficient than "every man for himself."

Third, when there's snow or freezing rain, people up there figured out years ago that you shouldn't speed to get home before the weather gets bad. It's already bad. Slow down.

In general, the New York area has unwritten rules of the road. Here, there are no local rules. Maybe it's because so many people are new to the area. Or, maybe the sophisticated traffic driving habits of the New York metropolitan region are a result of greater experience in driving in traffic.

Maybe D.C. area residents have not matured into traffic drivers yet.

Seth Kaufman

Washington

I'll say this: No big city I've ever been in has taxi drivers who drive so fast and so recklessly as in New York City.

Ignored Interstate

Dear Dr. Gridlock:

Another thing about that stretch of Interstate 95 between the Capital and Baltimore beltways: There are traffic cameras all over, but you can't pull up any of them on the Internet to check traffic conditions. Seems that Prince George's and Howard counties, mostly, don't want to show their traffic woes.

It's bad enough that traffic reports don't pay much attention to I-95 in Howard County unless there's a big accident, which often leads to uninformed directions on where exactly an accident has occurred on that stretch of I-95.

Maria Agara

Ellicott City

Try this Web site: www.chart.state.md.us. It is run by the Maryland State Highway Administration and includes some live camera feeds. Certainly I-95 is one of the main focal points. Please try it and write back.

License at 18, Not 16

Dear Dr. Gridlock:

My heart is again saddened by the loss of another teenager in an auto accident. This is getting harder and harder to accept.

Parents need to realize that these kids are not grown up and should not be given freedom at the age of 16 to take control of an automobile (especially an SUV). Children are not equipped to handle these vehicles, which are hard for even an experienced adult driver to handle.

Because the parents are not taking responsibility for these children, it is time for the states to take action and stop issuing driver's licenses to children under the age of 18. At least that would possibly give these children another two years on their life. Hello, senators and congressmen; are you listening?

I might be considered an outdated parent, but I was a single and divorced parent when both my children took driver's education and other student driver training courses. When they turned 16, I did not buy them a car, nor did I turn my car over to them to drive as they pleased. They are both over 30 years old, and still alive.

Parents need to wake up and see what is going on. What's with this hurry to get rid of the responsibility of taking your children places and instead pushing them to their deaths before they become adults?

Rosalie Goosby

Dale City

No licenses until age 18. I support that. What you went through was certainly time-consuming, and maybe even inconvenient for you, but you didn't have to worry about your 16- and 17-year-old children driving into a tree.

Parenting New Drivers

Dear Dr. Gridlock:

I remember some years ago you recommended some defensive driving schools, but do you have any recommendations for basic driving schools?

I've got 15-year-old twin boys who can't fit driver's ed into their schedules, and I do not want to do it myself. Thanks.

Jim Burridge

Arlington

Many parents don't want to, but they need to. How else will they feel that their children have received competent instruction and needed experience? How else will they be able to tell when a teen is ready to drive alone?

The measure should not be a few hours of training from a commercial enterprise that does not care about your children. Nor should the end of training be triggered by a birthday.

Do it, and chances are, they'll have a better chance of survival.

Flag Formalities

Dear Dr. Gridlock:

Regarding the small American flags people are flying from their cars: It's okay with me, but there are problems. I see flags that are dirty and shredded and flying in heavy rainstorms, and at night, when they're not lit up.

They're not following the rules for flying the flag. I don't think it's patriotic to treat the American flag that way.

Ferd G. Kuyatt

Silver Spring

If we're going to fly flags from our vehicles, we need to mind their condition. And the flag is supposed to be illuminated at night if not lowered at sunset.

Transportation researcher Diane Mattingly contributed to this column.

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