I was sorely disappointed in the article on the proposed Vietnam Women's Memorial {Style, Oct. 22}. I believe Benjamin Forgey has totally missed the point of the memorial. Though he says his objection is "not so much a question of numbers," it seems that is really the heart of his article. But Roger Brodin's beautiful statue represents not the numbers of women who served in Vietnam, but the spirit with which they served.

Mr. Forgey also takes issue with where the statue would be placed, stating it would have "almost no psychological or physical relationship to the memorial as a whole." When was the last time he was at the Vietnam memorial? I find there an aura that pervades the entire area surrounding the memorial -- placing this statue in any part of it would bond it with the wall, the flag and the other statue.

As to his corollary question, "Why not select them by ethnic group?" I suggest he take a closer look at the faces in Frederick Hart's portrayal of three infantrymen: each one represents a different ethnic or racial group, which is fitting. The statue of a woman is also fitting. While she is in fatigues, she represents not only the nurses in the field hospitals but also the flight nurses who tended to the wounded in the air as well as those on hospital ships. And though she has a stethoscope around her neck, she represents all women who served in Vietnam as surely as the bronze infantrymen represent the engineers, Seabees, pilots and supply sergeants who served. She belongs at the memorial. CAROL A. CAIRNS Bowie