Regarding the reported "rampant" interference by the military with the careers of military spouses {news story, Oct. 27; editorial, Oct. 29}, as a Navy wife of 10 years, I have continuously pursued a full-time career (formerly as equal opportunity officer for the city of San Diego, now as a writer) with no interference whatever from any command, nor with any adverse effect on my husband. He is now a captain in command of his fourth ship (the Iowa).

Nor have I been "pressured" into shouldering an "albatross" of volunteer and social activities. Well, once, nine years ago, a commodore's wife ordered me to tea; and once, five years ago, my husband was asked to ask me to take another commodore's wife shopping. In both instances, pressured more by our career demands and restricted time together than by tradition, we just said no. But we also say yes, especially to those functions bolstering ship morale and family welfare. The Navy is, after all, our community.

Although I exercise choice, I know some Navy wives do carry an "albatross" of volunteer activities. I recall a wife asking me to help make Christmas decorations, stating emphatically, "My reputation rides on this." Had I asked, "Reputation for what?" I'm fairly sure, instead of explicit directive, she'd have cited tradition, which we know can impose considerable pressure. However, the wives at Grissom Air Force Base were clearly pressured by explicit directive -- and cheers to them for resisting.

Are we exceptions? No -- other Navy couples live a satisfying mix of tradition and change. Is the Navy more enlightened than the Air Force? I don't know. What I do know is that I've developed, without interference, a career entirely to my pleasure and to my husband's pride. In fact, now that I think about it, considering the one gunboat command my husband had as a lieutenant commander when we met, maybe I can claim cause and effect. CARLA SEAQUIST Washington