In the article "The Boys of Delta Lambda Phi" {Style, Nov. 29}, Lisa Leff says, "It is also safe to say that the Lambdas belong to the only fraternity in the nation that has to consider whether to ban romantic relationships between pledges and brothers." My fraternity, Alpha Phi Omega, also has to consider this issue, in a broad sense.

Alpha Phi Omega is a coed service fraternity, founded at Lafayette College in Easton, Pa., in 1925. With more than 630 chapters and 240,000 members, we are the largest collegiate fraternal service organization in the country. Since going coed in the 1970s, our policy has been to refer to both men and women as brothers. Our most distinguished alum is President Bill Clinton, who pledged the Georgetown chapter of Alpha Phi Omega during his undergraduate years.

Some chapters do not allow brothers to date pledges during the pledging period. Other chapters will allow pledges to date brothers. So far as I know, no chapters have any rules regarding whether or not brothers may date. Nationally, the fraternity leaves the decision up to the individual chapters. At Alpha Gamma Chi chapter at Frostburg State University in Frostburg, Md., we let the pledges do as they please with respect to dating brothers, with the admonition that the brother's personal feelings should not play a role in his or her vote on the pledge. JONATHAN ALLOY Frostburg, Md.