As a mother of three young children, I have had my share of minutes, hours and days when the use of hot sauce to tame my children would have come in handy ["Feeling the Heat," Health, Aug. 10].

However, I am embarrassed that members of my generation -- statistically better educated, more liberated and older than their mothers were when they became parents -- resort to quick fixes and demand immediate results when disciplining our children.

One mother quoted said she uses "saucing" only in extreme circumstances, such as when her son calls her daughter a "crybaby." If she thinks that is "extreme," that lady is going to get a major wake-up call when she has bigger kids and bigger problems.

We don't like anything unpleasant these days, so we sauce it quickly so that we are not inconvenienced or embarrassed by our children's poor behavior; it speaks volumes about the immediacy of our culture.

We are scared to set real limits for our children and communicate our authority. In 20 years, I would like to enjoy a spicy Tex-Mex meal with my adult children and laugh about their childhood days rather than have hot foods send them into a cold sweat for reasons they can't figure out.

ANN FOWLER

Bethesda