Regarding the "controversy" about college lacrosse players wearing flip-flops to meet President Bush at the White House [Style, July 19 and 22; KidsPost, July 21].

These women represented themselves respectfully. Initially, at least, they weren't in the news for abusing performance-enhancing drugs or for getting into fights with rival teams or fans. They stood out because of their accomplishments.

I live and work in a community home for adults with developmental disabilities. Every night we watch the news and are immersed in bad news. At dinner, we always pray, and every night I can expect prayers for "the people in the war," "the little boy who died," "the bad car accident."

The best part of dinner is when everyone shares their good news:

"I got a job!"

"I talked to Mom. Dad's home from the hospital."

"I didn't get upset with the teasing."

No good news, no matter how small, goes unrecognized or uncelebrated. Unfortunately, society has forgotten how to celebrate life and seems to prefer to wallow in disappointments, fear and tragedy -- anything that's destructive to the human spirit. We must not ignore the sufferings of the world, but we cannot forget that we are rewarded every day, too.

So what if someone wore flip-flops to meet the president? How about this story: A group of amazing women managed to keep their grades up and devote the time needed to turn their college lacrosse team into a sensation.

How would that be for news?

DOROTHY BOLINTO

Washington