Democratic state chairmen, upset by their treatment from the White House and the national party headquarters, yesterday called for better consultation on patronage and political decisions.

A meeting of the state party leaders at the Sheraton-Park Hotel echoed with complaints of exclusion, and led to a resolution calling on the Carter administration and the staff of the Democratic National Committee to "insure that state parties participate fully and meaningfully" in future appointments, fund-raising and political operations.

The resolution was cleared unanimously by the party's executive committee for submission to today's meeting of the Democratic National Committee.

During the sometimes angry discussion, Harold C. Pachios, the Maine Democratic chairman, said Democratic National Chairman Kenneth M. Curtis, a former Maine governor, "should go to the White House and tell the President he's going to need us to get re-elected in three years."

Curtis, who was not present at the time, was presiding later when the executive committee cleared the resolution. He said he had "no objection whatsover" to it.

He insisted to reporters that it was "not negative to anybody" but was "just a statement of how they'd like us to proceed."

As presented by Anne Campbell of New Jersey, elected yesterday as president of the state chairmen's group, the resolution called on the White House and the national committee to solicit recommendations from state parties for making appointments to both public and party jobs, to consult before making such appointments.

Campbell said the "complaints are not yet of great magnitude but things have happened without our consultation . . . It's a way of saying that we feel very strongly that these things should be handled in the traditional political fashion."

Campbell said that a part of the resolution calling for "prior consultation and notification to the states of national committee fund-raising activities in their jurisdictions was occasioned by complaints about the President's son, James Earl (Chip) Carter III, an employee of the national committee.

She said she had been told that young Carter had gone on a fund-raising trip for a group of Florida Democrats without letting the Florida Democratic chairman know of his activities. Chip Carter was not available for comment.

The gripes at the morning session focused mainly on the way both President Carter and Curtis had been handling appointments.

Referring to the President's selection of former Pennsylvania Gov. William W. Scranton, a Republican, as a member of the board screening ambassadorial appointments for the administration, Pennsyvlania Democratic Chariman, Harvey Thiemann said sarcastically: "If they're going to have Gov. Scranton run the 1980 campaign, there's some things they're going to have to start doing now."

When David Dunn, the national committee's director of field services, told the chairmen "we've been talking to you about regional spots," meaning appointments to various regional office jobs in federal agencies, he was greeted by derisive cries. "No, you haven't," one voice said. "Drop that," said another. "We've never heard from or about you," said a third.

Dunn rephrased his comment to say, "We've been taking your recommendations."

The chairmen were a good deal more polite when Vice President Mondale showed up at their lunch to ping for the administration's tax rebate and election bills.

Mondale said, "I know some of you have had your frustrations with the new administration . . . jobs you've wanted . . . projects . . . dams you want built . . . water that has not yet arrived . . . "

Then pointing to his aide, former Minnesota Democratic Chairman Richard Moe, Mondale drew a laugh by saying, "All those problems can be worked out by Dick Moe . . . by Friday."