The war of words between the White House and the AFL-CIO has extended to the far reaches of the Communications Satellite Corp, and the National Advisory Committee for Women.

AFL-CIO Secretary-Treasurer Lane Kirkland fired off a letter to President Carter yesterday saying he was resigning his presidential appointments to the Arms Control and Disarmament Agency's advisory committee and the National Advisory Committee for Women.

Kirkland's action followed reports that Carter struck AFL-CIO President George Meany's name from a list of presidential appointments to the board of directors of the Communications Satellite Corp.-a position Meany has held since 1964 despite several unsuccessful attempts to step down.

"since I am equally associated with and wholly support the AFL-CIO views and positions which President Meany has the responsibility to advance," Kirkland told Carter, "I just conclude that my own service as a presidential appointee...is no longer appropriate."

Carter and Meany have clashed repeatedly over economic policy and other matters, with the disagreements growing increasingly personal in recent weeks. Despite the labor federation's support for Carter in 1976, high-level contacts between the White House and the AFL-CIO are now virtually nonexistent.