JIDDAH, SAUDI ARABIA, OCT. 15 -- More than 1,000 exiled Kuwaitis today pledged unity as "one family" under their emir and called on the United Nations to authorize "every means possible" to force Iraq out of their country.

The Kuwaitis' show of unity came in a communique ending a three-day conference here of prominent officials and citizens representing most segments of Kuwaiti society. It gave the ruling Sabah family a political boost in their efforts to end the Iraqi occupation of their homeland.

The meeting should be seen, said Prime Minister and Crown Prince Saad Abdullah Sabah, as a "message to Iraq" that "there is no place for you in Kuwait. . . . You will be forced out."

The gathering drew a public promise from Saad that the government would revive the parliament, which was suspended in 1986, and implement other democratic measures once Kuwaitis have returned home, and many participants said it raised the sagging spirits of Kuwaitis now living across the Middle East and Europe as refugees.

The final communique, drawn up by a committee that included pro-government and opposition figures, called on the U.N. Security Council "to adopt a resolution authorizing the world community to use every means possible for the implementation of {its} resolutions . . . to ensure {Iraq's} withdrawal."

Some delegates were pushing for language urging quick military action. But one cabinet minister said such talk might make Kuwait appear out of step with the international consensus that, for now, seems willing to give the U.N.-imposed sanctions against the Iraqi government of Saddam Hussein time to work.

"We didn't want to give any impression, being an invaded country . . . to let the world think {Kuwaitis were saying}, 'Let's clobber him. Let's hit him,' " said Planning Minister Sulaiman Mutawa.

The Kuwaitis rejected any compromise with Saddam that would include territorial concessions or fall short of their demand for Baghdad's unconditional withdrawal from their country. Despite "the tragic ordeals" of the Kuwaiti people since the Aug. 2 Iraqi invasion, the comunique said, they hold no animosity toward the Iraqi people.

The Kuwaitis also held out an olive branch to the Palestinian community, saying that the position of "some Palestinian leaders" in the crisis "will in no way affect our unswerving solidarity with the Palestinian people in their just struggle for the liberation of their land." Palestine Liberation Organization leader Yasser Arafat has angered Kuwaitis by siding with Saddam.

While the conference was marked by harmony in public, sources said that Kuwaitis did not mince words in closed sessions with Saad about what they see as some government officials' "incompetence" and "arrogance."

In particular, Finance Minister Sheik Ali Khalifa, who heads the London-based Kuwaiti Investment Office, was scored for being a "one-man show," disregarding others' opinions in his management of Kuwait's multibillion-dollar overseas investment portfolio, sources said.

Saad also heard complaints about the proliferation of royal family members in top civil service jobs and about the preference they have received in lucrative business opportunities. One opposition leader, former legislative deputy Ahmed Khatib, said Saad promised that these abuses "will be corrected."

Khatib said the issue of extending voting rights to women and other disenfranchised groups was also discussed.

The opposition dropped a demand that the royal family immediately appoint a "government of national unity," and instead asked the crown prince to strengthen the existing cabinet by appointing technical experts to assist it.

Most opposition leaders expressed satisfaction with the conference and said they do not believe the royal family will renege on the promised democratic reforms once they return to Kuwait, in part because their pledges have been made in public and because they would face discontent if they did.

The conference was attended by Kuwaitis from many elements of society, including students, intellectuals, businessmen and women. The only Kuwaiti group not represented appeared to be one known as the bidoon, an Arabic word meaning "without." This group has long been an underclass in Kuwait because members have no citizenship and are deprived of substantial financial benefits and employment opportunities.