Jean Yawkey, Tom's widow, hasn't been on speaking terms for some time with Boston Red Sox general manager Dick O'Connell. Mrs. Yawkey has almost a mother-son relationship with Sox vice president-player personnel Haywood Sullivan. Meet Haywood Sullivan, general manager - and Dick O'Connell, unemployed. Maybe.

Jean Yawkey, as an executor of her late husband's estate, put his life's other love, the ball club, up for sale in April, about 10 months after his death. On Sept. 29, Mrs. Yawkey and her two coexecutors chose from several bids the $15-16 million offer of a group headed up by Buddy LeRoux, Haywood Sullivan - and Jean Yawkey (putting up $3 million).

The sale requires approval of 10 of the American League clubs, who meet Nov. 3 to take up the matter. The legality of Mrs. Yawkey investing in the team she is selling has been questioned. O'Connell, operating head since 1965 of one of the game's most successful franchises, is a power in league councils. Approval may not be cut and dried.

But the executors announced yesterday they had "informed executive vice president Richard H. O'Connell, vice president Gene Kirby and assistant general manager John Claiborne the their services are terminated immediately . . .

"Haywood Sullivan is general manager effective immediately."

Coach Dick Vermeil, in the postmortem on the narrow 16-10 loss to Dallas, said Jaworski may or may not be available for the RFK date, depending on how much his right thumb bothers him. The Rifle played the entire second half against the Cowboys without realizing a small bone in the thumb was fractured. "Right now," said Vermeil, "I'm mentally preparing for Roman Gabriel to play with reactivated John Walton as backup. I probably won't know until Thursday about Jaworski, but he'll play if he's ready.

On the medical front: Bob Frailey, American U. athletic director, was reported in "stable" condition last night at Suburban Hospital, 72-plus hours since a heart attack found him while he was golfing at Kenwood. Tentative outlook: Three weeks in hospital, then four weeks home recuperation . . .

Never fear, Bruce Robinson of the Washington Running Club didn't dwindle away during the New York City Marthon andslip through the grating of the Queensboro Bridge. He just slipped through the tally while coming in 28th in 2 hours 23 minutes 13.8 seconds - best howing of anyone from the capital area. Well run. Ditto. WRC's Martin Smith, 90th in 2:34.27.3.