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Readers’ advice on workplace bullying

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I received many responses to my “Bullying at work” column, including some excellent advice on how to put an end to workplace bulling. Here’s what one reader had to say.

“The optimal solution is a cultural one within the organization and the society. We have to find a way to say that workplace bullying is simply not acceptable. Often employers deny that bullying is going on in their organization despite evidence to the contrary…           

Engaging in discussions about this problem is one way to help more folks become aware of the problem. The process of trying to pass Healthy Workplace Bills in statehouses is another way to raise the issue to enable cultural change. Often the process of passing laws is the catalyst for change in public opinion on a topic. We hope that is true of workplace bullying.” - Retired federal employee

A number of federal employees shared their personal stories on the effects of bullying. Here’s one comment that reinforces the fact that bullying cannot be condoned in the workplace.

“I have been bullied and lived to tell the tale. Two years ago, seven of us in one federal branch (a majority of the branch employees) filed a bullying/harassment complaint within my federal agency. To make a long story short, the manager is still there and the majority of us are gone. The bottom line seemed to be that he had ingratiated himself enough with superiors (doing their job and making them beholding to him) so that there was no way he was going to be removed…The damage that was done to the employees’ psyche and self-confidence and performance appraisals is beyond words. This man has been abusing selected employees for many years and will surely continue.”  - Former federal employee

This next comment explains the extent to which bullying can have serious consequences on morale and worker productivity. It comes from a reader who says she was bullied for more than ten years.

“Yes, I was bullied. For 10 years. (And so were the majority of my colleagues in the division.)

I was repeatedly belittled, humiliated in front of colleagues and contractors, and told I didn’t know what I was doing. Everything possible was done to make it as difficult as possible for me to do my job.  As a result of the bullying, I lost my assignment (which I loved) and was essentially given tasks that had nothing to do with my background, experience, or expertise. I was pretty much a glorified secretary – underutilized and overpaid.

But I was hardly alone. Quite a few of my colleagues were gotten rid of, at least temporarily, by being sent to work in other places. All at government expense.” - Former federal worker

Another reader shared the tactics she used to stop her bullying problem.

“Twice in the last month, my manager has aimed angry outbursts at our staff — one time humiliating me in front of others. Each time, I talked to him privately and told him that it was unacceptable to me. I proceeded more or less as you said, focusing on how it made me feel. I asked him to consider creating the possibility of treating employees in a professional manner, with respect, and that if he has an issue with me, to discuss it with me privately, in a way that doesn’t leave me feeling diminished. He did apologize. It’s quite possible that he is not fully aware of the impact of his behavior.” – Federal Coach  reader

This reader shared her thoughts on the origins of workplace bullying. 

“The bullying problem is growing and going to become worse because we are now seeing so much of it through the elementary, middle, and high schools. This means that our children are receiving "on the job" training now in how to do bullying and why it works...they are not being taught a better skill set for managing and negotiating.”  – Federal Coach reader

Are there other problem workplace issues, like bullying, that you or your colleagues are experiencing on the job? Please send your thoughts to

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Tom Fox, of the Partnership for Public Service, explores workplace issues and provides advice for federal managers through analysis, interviews and reader Q&As in his Federal Coach blog for On Leadership.



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