The President Obama-Kamala Harris-complimentgate leads to much wrestling about when compliments are — or aren’t — compliments. So as long as we’re on the subject….

That compliment-that-wasn’t-a-compliment is one end of the scale, the very high, dinner-with-the-President-of-the-United-States end. On the other end of the scale is the kind of non-compliment compliment that happens if you walk down a street on a given day while female, even in sweatpants. People seem to think that they are being friendly and encouraging. “I wouldn’t mind if you did it to me,” they say. Well, really? Even on days when you were just skulking out of your apartment to seize a single tube of Ritz crackers and then curl back around your laptop?

But, on the off-chance that people really mean well and are just confused, here’s a chart! Consult before you yell!

Ask a friend if you have any questions! Or ask me, I’m on Twitter!

Also, this week (April 7 -13) is the anti-harassment Meet Us On The Street week, which you can find out more about here.