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Updated at 1:18 p.m.

The engagement of Chicago Bears quarterback Jay Cutler and Kristin Cavallari is off, with Cutler reportedly dumping the actress.

(In retrospect, his rather bored expression as she modeled a glass bikini at a recent fashion show, see photo at right, might have been a clue.)

The two had been a couple for 10 months and were planning a spring wedding until Cutler opted to return to the sideline with time left on the clock — er, changed his mind about marriage, according to People.com. And they say Jay Cutler isn’t tough.

“She got dumped,” a source told the magazine. “She's absolutely devastated. She can't believe this is happening.”

Cutler reportedly wanted to call the shots in the relationship, a friend of Cavallari told People.

“Jay Cutler was beyond controlling and didn't really like Kristin to go out,” the friend said. “When she did go out, he called all the time and demanded to know exactly where she was going and who she was with. ... He made her choose between him and being friends with a lot of her girlfriends. I'm not surprised it didn't last.”

Cutler popped the question in April in Mexico. “She was planning her dream wedding, the date was set, the location – everything was set,” the source says. “She's in shock that the dream wedding she was planning is going to end this way.”

Only a week ago, Cavallari tweeted about her engagement party and the couple had just completed the wedding registry. Who gets the $429.95 copper stockpot at Williams-Sonoma? Maybe DeAngelo Hall?