From elsewhere in The Post: There are conflicting statements about what goes on at school for one 3-year-old child, and her parent wants to figure out the truth. The teacher says the little girl seems happy and gets along with her classmates. At home, though, the girl tells a different version of the school day.

“...she complains bitterly about the girls in her class, and about the teacher, too. She says they pick on her, exclude her and bully her, and that the teacher doesn’t intervene when she tells her about it and that she won’t even call on her at circle time,” writes the girl’s parent to Family Almanac columnist Marguerite Kelly.

Kelly suggests this parent take a look inside the classroom to figure out which assessment is correct.

“You won’t know why this school bothers your child so much until you watch the class in action, even if you have to take time off at work. Just be sure to ask for permission from the head teacher before you show up, and if she says no, be wary. A good school usually lets parents observe because they know that a parent understands the quirks of her own child best and that she probably knows how to get around them,” Kelly says.

A day in class, Kelly says, will let this parent know if the school is a bad fit or if the child likes to tell stories for attention.

Kelly will host a live discussion Thursday at noon to chat about how to raise children. Submit questions now.