From elsewhere in The Post, a mother worries about how her 14-year-old daughter is dealing with an unrequited crush and asks Marguerite Kelly for advice.


(Hadley Hooper/For The Washington Post)

“Should I be concerned?”

Kelly says the mother should definitely be concerned but should focus more on consoling her daughter than giving her advice.

“The boy may not have cared for her, but he was her first love, and her first loss, and her pain should be acknowledged,” Kelly says. “The sooner you give her your unconditional sympathy, the sooner she can laugh about the mistakes that she and everyone makes between the ages of 11 and 15.”

Read Kelly’s full column or the transcript of her most recent online chat.

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